I'm a 22yr old female n the question im goin 2 ask might be weird but I really want 2 know and find out some info since i don't know where to go on the internet but here!! Me and my boyfriend has been together for 3years and we live together. we had sex only one time with a condom and the condom hurt me and didn't feel comforable. But now i want to have sex again but i dont want to get pregnant and I'm not on the pill and i will not wear a woman condom.I really want this time to feel right for both of us since the first time was not really that good. so my question is when a man has a condom on does he still feel the same pleasure of what a man feels like when they don't have a condom on? does it feel the same thing with or without a condom on? or does it feel different when he has a condom on and is in a girl? and is there any ways to make me feel comforable when he has the condom on? or is there any other ways for us to do it without a condom without me getting pregnant? Please help.
2006-11-13 16:09:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I assume that the first time that you had sex with your boyfriend was the first time that you had had sex ever - so if this was the case and you was losing your virginity to him then it is normal to feel some discomfort at that point.
Next time should be better, as your hymen is now broken and the discomfort (and in some ladies out-write pain) should be gone.
Make sure that you are turned on and 'wet' before he tries to enter you as this will make the experience more enjoyable for you both. This will mean a lot of foreplay and ask him to perform oral sex on you as this should get you really moist down there and may even lead to a pre sex orgasm.
Failing that go to a chemist and buy some lubricant to use, apply a small amount of this prior to entry and you shoudl feel that everything slips in fine and makes the whole experaince more enjoyable.
I would suggest always using a condom as a way to prevent pregnancy and STD's and it should not feel a great deal different to you than sex without a condom.
As to how a man feels with/without a condom. Without a condom increase the pleasure, however although this feels better in the begining it can also lead to a shorter period until he climaxes, which shortens the period of sex. So although you can say initially that it is better as it is normally a shorter performance then this has to be taken into the equiation too.
I find that as i use a condom i last longer, which is great for both me and the lady, also i am not worried about her getting pregnant, which is great for my security as i know that i will not have to support a familly and that i wont be catching any nasty diseases - so with or without for me? With everytime!
Good luck and enjoy
2006-11-13 16:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by kel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does not feel exactly the same with a condom on, but it feels a lot better than not having sex at all because your girlfriend doesn't want to get pregnant or get an STD.
How exactly did the condom hurt you? Some people have allergic reactions to the latex, but this is not really common. You can try a non-latex condom, like Trojan Supra. Or it might be the spermicide--try a non-spermicidal condom.
Were you using lubricant/enough lubricant? That sounds like the more likely problem.
Buy "sensitive" condoms and put a drop of lubricant in the tip before he puts it on. That will help him. And make sure the outside is nice and lubricated for you.
Wait... was this your FIRST first time? Well, no wonder it hurt you! It's not the condom's fault!
And do NOT listen to what that person said about Vaseline. Never use oils on condoms!--you might as well just skip the condom if you're going to do that. Use a water-based or silicone lubricant like KY Jelly, Astroglide, etc.
2006-11-13 16:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by EQ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW..OK first of all from what i understood you were a virgin the first time (with the condom) well Hun it will hurt no matter what that first time!! It will get better over time though. The best bet for you is to buy some condoms that are Lubricated so it is a little more comfy for the both of you.And wearing a condom will not take away from either of you any pleasure, you will have a great protection against STD'S and Pregnancy.
Enjoy!!!
2006-11-13 16:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by gonicki31 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the sensation is lessened when a condom is used. If you're not comfortable with condoms, try finding a spermicidal lubricant. That's not 100% effective, but it's better than nothing. Of course he can pull out, but there is precum too. And the best part is going inside.
There are not many options. Try a thin condom, made especially for more sensation. It may still be a condom, but you are less likely to become pregnant.
2006-11-13 16:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Melton 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men feel a little bit less pleasure with the condom on, but not so much that they would want to stop having sex that way. The condom may have made you uncomfortable if it was not lubricated or if it was not the right size. If you are cool with it, go with him when he buys them and make sure he gets the lubricated kind. As for going without protection, there are a couple of days near your period time when there's not much chance of conception, but check that out first on another site.
2006-11-13 16:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by neff_crystal 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did you spot it cross in? Okey here is the deal, frequently condoms do not are compatible very good. I suppose this is a well notion to tug out should you suppose the sperm maybe leaking. If you pull out do exactly the courteous factor and conclude her with you are palms or Orally. Even if one of the sperm did leak into her Vagina there isn't any very prime hazard that you simply could get her pregnant.
2016-09-01 12:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO. Always use a condom. You have been wit em for some years but if dont want children, a condom will help prevent it. If u get on the pill that will help alot more. If u get on the depo shot it will help too but most females gain weight from the shot. Vaseline will make that stroke terrrrrific please believe that.
2006-11-13 16:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off i would like to say it may have been uncomfortable for you because it was the first time you both had sexual intercourse together, try using lubrication such as Ky jelly, even vaseline will work, but do not have nprotected sex unless you are ready to raise a family at an early age, Go to your doctors and also talk to him about which birth control is best to fit your needs. It was the same for me, my first time but i would not have sex without a condom to protect myself and my b/f from starting a family early!!
~CHEERS!!~
2006-11-13 16:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Romy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was your first time having sex, it's natural for it to feel uncomfortable. Some things you might try are more foreplay before getting to the main event, because it gets you more stimulated and.... yeah, I hope I don't have to spell that part out to ya LOL I don't know what it feels like for a guy, since I'm not a guy LOL hope this helps!
2006-11-13 16:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by High On Life 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer for him, but if the condom you used had spermicide on it, you may be allergic to it. Believe me, it's not a fun way to find out.. buy some unlubricated condoms and a bottle of KY
2006-11-13 16:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by armywifehaney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋