i know this girl who i enjoy hanging out with very much and we sort of get it on from time to time and i know she is like in love with me cause she has told me. but i don't want to date her cause she is a bit over weight. what should i do. what it be right to try and get her to work out with me and if so how do i tell her
2006-11-13 15:55:37 · 20 answers · asked by raul b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no. you have no control over what you like and don't like. If u don't like big broads, then kick her to the curb.
2006-11-13 16:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by Stymie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well would YOU want to date YOU ??? just say you had big feet or werid ears and you found out the person you were inlove with didn't want to date YOU because of that? How would you feel huh? LOL I think you should stop being so shallow,and look at whats really important in life and accept this girl for who she is. An attitude makeover is what you need and if you really want to be happy in life i suggest you get one , before you loose this lovely girl and end up a lonely old man with a clueless,cold hearted money grabbing big titted bimbo.
2006-11-13 16:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, first of all, get over yourself. I'm sure that you aren't Adonis, so the fact that this girl is overweight should not enter into the equation. If you like her and respect her at all, it shouldn't matter. You say that you guys sleep together sometimes, so are you saying that sleeping with her is okay because nobody sees you doing it? If this is what your philosophy is, then no, you shouldn't date her, because she deserves better than someone who is so self absorbed. If she has told you that she cares for you, and you didn't tell her that a) you care about her too or (b you enjoyed her friendship but weren't interested, you are only leading her on and that is not fair to her at all. I would either make it clear you aren't interested, or go for it no matter what she looks like, because if you thought she was nice enough to be friends with, you shouldn't be judging her for a relationship based on her looks. As for getting her to work out with you, if you approach it the right way, and if you are genuinely concerned about her weight for health reasons, and not cosmetic ones, there is no reason that this isn't acceptable. Just be tactful. Bring it up like "I was thinking of going to the gym later, but it would be more fun if you came along and kept me company."
2006-11-13 16:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie Girl 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Thats hardly ever even an age enormous difference, even ive had a larger hollow. I dont locate something incorrect with it if both activities are mature and are satisfied. everybody is way too judgemental, a lot with the objective to the point that it may ruin the superbly solid courting. And in case you extremely imagine females date people for funds or perhaps extra stupid, their penis length then youve been suckered into too a lot hollywood crap. No offense
2016-11-29 03:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not wrong. Shallow maybe, but hey the first thing that attracts us to someone is the way they look and if you really don't want to look at that person much while you're with them, then I say it's the right decision.
Finding someone that is appealing both inside and out can be difficult and most settle for one or the other but if you have the patience to keep looking for the perfect balance of perfection then wait for her.
2006-11-13 16:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by princessslave 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same predicament, except I think you put it a little more candidly than I would have.
The girl who likes me isn't ugly, but she's not particularly pretty. I know she's beautiful inside, but I'm not really physically attracted to her.
The difference between you and I, is that this girl is moving soon and I'll never see her again, so I visit her occassionally to make her feel special while it lasts. It's terrible of me, but I don't want her to be sad either. Before I knew she was moving, a lot of people were telling me to be honest. I pass this advice on to you. Tell her, "I like you, but not in that way." Something similar to that, just be honest with her, and stop leading her on if you don't want to be with her.
2006-11-13 16:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Link 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't date her. Unfortunately physical attraction is really important. If you are good friends and she hasnt become beautiful in your eyes there will always be something. It sounds like you two are just meant to be friends. And of course its always good to help someone work out if they want to, but we ladies are usually sensitive about our weight and I am sure she would take it as you calling her fat if you asked her to work out. And you really just can't change someone she will lose weight when she's ready be there to support her and stop sleeping with her!!!!!
2006-11-13 16:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Supa_Star124 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah that's wrong appearances shouldn't matter if you really like her,but working out is good for you.I don't think you should go out with her because you sound very shallow.
2006-11-13 16:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest and tell her...I like to screw you but I don't want to date you cause you're too fat for me. See how much fun she is to hang out with when she finds out how you really feel. Bet she'll kick you to the curb and find a GOOD man who will love her for who she is.
2006-11-13 16:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by fatt_bottom_girl2001 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you must be a very shallow person. Remeber dont judge a person by what they look like on the outside,
2006-11-13 16:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, only date people you are in love with.
2006-11-13 17:24:22 · answer #11 · answered by Sonia R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋