my boyfriend has been incarcerated for 2 1/2 years and he was just released a month ago. everytime i talk to him he picks an argument and wont call back for days, should i just give up on him and move on, or try to work it out?
2006-11-13 15:54:31 · 11 answers · asked by peachiz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on... find someone who will answer when you call or calls back as soon as possible and really cares about you
2006-11-13 15:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by bob123456789 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is unlikely that things will work out. Does he have anger issues? If so, it might be a good idea to confront the problem straight on and just ask your boyfriend if he is mad at you. If he will not answer the question, it's time to step back and maybe move on.
On the other hand, if he can not answer the question, he might need some help that only someone close can give him. I suggest you look closely into yourself first and make sure you are calm and clear about your goals. Then when you feel up, let your boyfriend know you care about him and want to help him.
Watch closely as you express your feelings and maybe you will notice something that sets him off or makes him calm.
Be aware and sincere and see what happens. But be sure you have done all you can before you walk away.
Remember, you and your happiness are important too. Some people punish themselves by helping people that don't want help. I wish you the best!
2006-11-14 00:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Buddha Bob 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No l don't believe you are stupid, perhaps just a little confused and rightly so. Maybe he feels that he is no longer worthy of your love because of what he did. Or then again perhaps he just has no idea how to act around you any more. You know your boyfriend more than any of us naturally so you probably know what works with him and what doesn't. Surely he hasn't changed that much or has he ?? I would suggest you speak to him, let him know exactly how you feel and take things from there. If you two want to be together enough, you will work everything out. Just remember he has to want it too or you are fighting a losing battle. Good Luck with whatever happens.
2006-11-14 00:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must love him enough to be still associated with him in spite of his incarceration. i'd say work it out with him. let him know that this kind of relationship can't continue and that you want to work it out. if he starts to argue about it or make it your fault, then move on.
2006-11-14 00:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Charles C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't care about you. I will admit that hostilities increase when I am trying to break things with a girl. The slightest things get me angry, and we end up fighting until the end. Move on. There are other men.
2006-11-13 23:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you say every time he makes an arguement,,then just make one and last try with him,,telling him thats is his last chance to fix things between you and him,,if he act nice,,thats great,,be more nice with him and i wish you a happy life with him,
but if he makes another arguement,,,then ,,forgive me my dear,, just give up with him and let your life change and find the true love and the right person ,,who deserve you,,who really care about you,,,
Good Luck
2006-11-14 00:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by carry_me5455 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU AE NOT STUPID, YOU WANT TO MAINTAIN A REALTIONSHIP WITH HIM .BUT IT SOUND LIKE HE HAS
SOME ISSUES THAT HE NEED TO WORK OUT, AND
IT MAY BE THAT BOTH OF YOU NEED MAYBE TAKE SOME
TIME TO DEAL WITH EVERYTHING THAT GOING ON. THINGS
HAVE CHANGE SINCE HE LEFT JAIL, SO GIVE IT TIME.
2006-11-14 00:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No relationship is good if all you do is argue. Maybe you need to reevaluate the entire circumstances,
2006-11-13 23:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by fishnguy_61 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on. He should be happy he still has a gf after being in prison for so long. He should be on his knees thanking you for staying with him everyday. Instead, he's treating you like crap. MOVE ON!
2006-11-13 23:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by fatt_bottom_girl2001 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you shouldnt waste your time on something that makes you feel so down...its not going to work
2006-11-14 01:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by last3member2002 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋