My boyfriend told me last night it turns him on to think of me being with other men and then telling him. He also said he would like to watch this take place. I love him and want to be faithful to him, and I don't really like this idea. Now, this makes me question his love for me. I thought when you love someone you want them to be faithful to you?
2006-11-13 15:50:50 · 19 answers · asked by fatt_bottom_girl2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your right,both people are suppose to be faithful.He's asking you to do something that wrong,and there is no question that he does not love you.That is not love,it is satisfying his sick perverted,and pornographic watching lust to see you with someone else.He not only doesn't love you,he doesn't care what happens to you.Because,if you consent to doing that,your whole life will change for the worst.Won't be totally his fault because God gave you a mind of your own to make your own decisions.Not to let someone talk or trick you into a life of pornography.You sound smart young lady.You saying no may lead to a brake up,but that is better than what he is asking.You can get over him.Can you get over what the rest of your life will be like if you do it?I say no.God Bless you,and I'll pray that you make the right decision.
2006-11-13 16:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that what you think and then see what he says.
To me, this just sounds like a guy who might see you as an object. Maybe he isn't that into you and is retreating back into his own mind and fantasy world.
I think that any guy who did love you would not want you to sleep with any other guy. This sounds wrong to me. If you can't sort this problem out, and this may require him to get counselling from a sex therapist, then you may have to cut your losses and leave him.
2006-11-14 00:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right! Could you picture him w/another woman? Cuz I bet that will be next? I couldn't imagine wanting to see my husband w/ another woman. MAN! Did you ever see the movie "indecent proposal" w/Demi Moore and Woody Harrilson? Well, if not, watch that 1st. I think he may regret it later and never be able to get the image outta his head. (unless he's not quite right) Don't do anything you don't want. If he loves you, (which is doubtful from what he is saying) He would understand.
2006-11-14 00:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes, but this is sex. Faithful can mean 'doing it with him and with his approval.' In other words, he's not seeing this as being unfaithful, but as being a part of your sexual relationship. People are turned on by this kind of thing some times and it doesn't mean he loves you any less. He's adventuresome.
2006-11-13 23:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully it also makes you wonder if he just wants you to even the score or something! Don't give him a reason to look down on you!
2006-11-13 23:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds like to me it is just fantasy. You might act like you are gonna follow through with it and see how he reacts. He might change his tune when the reality hits.
2006-11-13 23:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a sex freak and a perve. Great u love a sex freak and a perve good luck to u.
2006-11-13 23:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very unhealthy fetish. There is a name for this but I forget what it's called. It isn't too uncommon. If you do this, you are putting yourself at risk for so much. He needs counseling. This is wrong.
2006-11-13 23:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me,, but he doesnt love you a true love,,he ie just using you as a sex maching,,forgive me my dear,,but thats the truth.
he doesnt deserve you,,
try to be far from him for a while,,or be beside him but dont give him sex,,and see what he will do then,,,,
Good Luck
2006-11-13 23:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by carry_me5455 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had an ex like that. it was weird but i think he really loved me. i don't really think it is a good idea though if you plan on staying together.
2006-11-13 23:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kristin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋