ok, well i like this girl. a lot. and its so frustrating because obviously she's taken. but i just feel like i miss the boat on every single girl i like. and i tell myself next time that i'm going to tell her i like her and just go for it. but i can't. i can't just tell a girl that i like her. i am so scared of rejection, and of being hurt and of not being good enough. and i'm so scared i'm never going to find that girl, you know? i get so mad at myself because i just want to throw myself out there and go for it, but i can't. i'm pretty sure the world could be coming to an end and i wouldn't be able to tell a girl how in love i am with her.
2006-11-13 15:44:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Based on what you wrote, it seems like you don't want to miss out on her. So take a risk..tell her how you feel. If she is as beautiful inside as she is on the outside, she will not be mean to you. Just ask her if things are getting serious with her current boyfriend and take it from there. Get her talking about it and that will clue you in to what you should say next.
2006-11-13 15:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by Angel_In_America 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's the thing: just telling a girl you like her straight out of the blue, especially if she's in a relationship, doesn't work. It just doesn't. And right now you've got your head so twisted up over her that your body language is going to come off desperate and possibly stalkerish. Even if you don't think you're acting this way, she may. Women can smell an agenda on a man from across the room.
Here's the other thing: if you miss the boat on every single girl you like, then learn from the experience and stop missing the boat. Find an available girl that you find attractive (NOT one that you're hung up on or are seriously crushing on, just a mild attraction that you can handle) and start talking to her. Be funny, be honest, but don't make any declarations of love or tell her she's pretty or anything like that. Compliments don't work if they're excessive.
Whatever you do, don't let yourself get into a situation where you're emotionally powerless. It's not attractive to women and you'll just end up getting hurt.
2006-11-13 23:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Guelph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so here's what you do. Whenever you see her, make eye contact and hold it...don't look away...giver her a little smile and then look away. She'll know you're flirting. You will never be able to experience what love is really like until you take a risk for it. So put yourself out there. You don't have to 'tell' her you like her, there are plenty of ways of doing that without actually saying it. Maybe she is with this guy because you haven't told her, and she is just waiting for you. Go for it. Find a way to be around her so you can flirt. Maybe stand a little too close or rub against her in the hall. Let her know that she has your attention. She might be waiting for you...
2006-11-13 23:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really do feel ur pain, but the truth is the only way to get over this fear of Ur's is to address it. so i will say tell her and don't beat ur up over rejection b/c that is apart of life trust me. my advice to u will b to stop looking at urself as not being good enough b/c if u wasn't the girl would not b with u. think about it, there must something about u that she likes why she is with u. every thing will b fine if u just let urself go and let nature take its course. so go ahead and tell her u like fore its too late.
2006-11-13 23:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do i is pick up some self esteem. You are obviously down on your self. You need confedence to be in relationship, and from a girls point of view... self esteem is hott!
2006-11-13 23:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jack Daniels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Devote your time in your studies or profession. Let the offers come from other end as u lack that ability.
2006-11-13 23:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got to just come out and tell her. Oh and disscuss the crossdressing thin while you are at it.
2006-11-13 23:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't do it yourself, tell somebody that can't keep a secret.
2006-11-13 23:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by neff_crystal 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋