I am taking time off from my relationship to focus on God and make sure I am basing a relationship on a solid foundation. If you could start over with your marriage what would you change about the dating phase of you relationship?
This is an exciting opportunity for me to focus on what I need to make marriage work. All thoughts are welcome.
2006-11-13 15:34:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
FYI I was engaged, but am now taking a break.
2006-11-13 15:41:24 · update #1
Go outside and look at the sky, look at a leaf.
Read your Bible or Koran or whatever applies without anyone else telling you what it "really" means.
Study what is happening to people in other parts of the world, not what the news says, not what politicians say, but what is really happening.
Cry.
Plant a seed and tend it as it grows.
Then look within and you will find God.
Consider that marriage is a give and take proposition, 80% give and 20% take, for both.
Then decide if you want the partnership with this person, and will you both be happy.
2006-11-13 15:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would never start with religion. The most important person in my life right now is my husband. When I have children, then they will be first. I honestly wouldn't have changed anything in our dating phase. It's tribulations help build the strong foundation on which my marriage was founded.
What makes our relationship work is communication We can open communicate and constructively criticize each other. It's our mission to make each other better people to make ourselves better in our relationship and our life. We have common goals and work to achieve those goals.
I've come from one failed marriage and learned never to settle. I knew exactly what I wanted in a man and searched for quite a while to find it. I wouldn't trade our memories, good or bad, for anything.
2006-11-13 23:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would start by praying and asking God for His guidance in this matter. He will intervene in your life if this is the right woman for you. A successful Christian marriage needs to be based on God and His principles. Without that, the foundation is going to be shaky. Go to a good Bible preaching church and start asking others for help and guidance. Remember to leave the timing in God's hands. It is up to Him when and if you should get married. Don't let desires control the situation.
2006-11-14 03:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by ironchain15 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by relaxing and reading, perhaps.
Avoid distractions for a while. Keep a diary or Note book, documenting your thoughts.
Contact your God in the manner you are most comfortable...Praying, Reading the Bible and attending Church Services.
I would make no changes in my Dating Process. When two people are in Love, most obstacles can be over come in time.
Children can be born from a marriage. Those children are truly a Gift from God.
Best of Luck to you..................... Billy
2006-11-13 23:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do that. I have had many faults in my relationship and I am glad I didn't question it to a point to move on or out. I consider a close relationship like blood. Family is family. I could also question the foundation of my parents but what would I be doing? Judging. I think we all have time to think,pray etc.
Fix within not without.
What if god did that to me? Like he wondered if I was good enough or the foundation etc and he left my life? Ouch
2006-11-13 23:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get physical until after your are legally married. It makes it special that way. Only get married to the one person you expect to be with for eternity. This will require a daily spiritual journey with daily Bible study and prayer. Always ask that only God's will be done in your life. What so ever is pure think on these things.
2006-11-13 23:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off start with your relationship with God. Figure out where you're at,you know things like do you go to church? how often?then take a look at whats bothering you in your relationship. were you went wrong were your spouse went wrong? if you have a church group or a prayer you ask them for guidance and support or you can talk to your Priest. hopefully that works for you. good luck.
2006-11-13 23:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it politely, I think it's a bloody silly idea. You need to concentrate on your life and living it well. You want to put aside a relationship to concentrate on something which may not exist?
I was married for 13 years when my wife died (not enough time). If I had done what you intend to do, it would have been even less time with her
2006-11-13 23:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nemesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current relationship is your marriage, and you're taking time OFF from it? Is that what God would want?
2006-11-13 23:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with communication. There is no such thing as time off from a relationship. You are either in or out.
2006-11-14 00:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋