Sister in Law Trouble What to do???

Question

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My new husband hates his sister he just has no respect what so ever for her I don't really blame him, she has 4 kids 3 girls one boy and she doesn't work doesn't do anything for her kids it is all about her husband!! He can do no wrong (although) he is a drunken looser and treats his kids like ****!
She is always bragging how much money they have and how they have no debt !!! they have nothing to show for it! They live in a crappy OLD house trailer and they don't have a decent vehicle! Her kids love me I buy them clothes and toys and everything that tehy want but she never wants to bring them to my house we only live like 40mins from them and she always has some excuse no money for gas or some lame excuse!
I have caught her lying to me more than once I am sick of this and I am gonna have nothing to do with them and not go there and just stay away because I am just sick of it!!
Is this the right thing to do Just Cutting them off? wha

Perhaps I should mention a few things!!!
Her kids are not the best behaved but she doesn't discpiline them either the youngest girl swears all the time!
She is the biggest gossip ever!!
She talks about me behind my back to her kids they are so young and vunerable!!!
And the youngest one is so so spolied and bad that you can't do anything!
Her kids are not a priority in her life!
I hate that fact!!

Answer 1

This probably isn't the most constructive answer, but I would just wash my hands of that family. Unless she wants to drop her kids off for a sleepover at your house from time to time. And I would stop buying them stuff...she's taking advantage of you. Just treat them well if she brings them over. And when they misbehave in your home, discipline them.

Answer 2

ok so what you probably did grew to become into way previous great and beneficiant and exhibits only how some distance you're keen to pass to contain others yet being a mom of two i comprehend that i does not and nonetheless won't return and forth with my infants that some distance on a airplane and on suitable of that the quantity of packing it is mandatory to hold a newborn. not in basic terms do they desire the garments, diaper, wipes, %. n play, swing, toddler washcloths, toddler shampoo and physique wash, diaper creams, burp outfits, yet whilst the mummy is formulation feeding then she has to hold alongside a lot of formulation and bottles and water and on suitable of that the cleansing components for those. only on the edge of go could be a perplexing situation for a clean mom. And besides that one and all a clean mommy needs to do is spend time along with her new arrival, bond, and relax from a hectic few weeks. Then there are the wellbeing practitioner's visits that they might desire to confirm you artwork around. If she is at homestead she would be able to artwork on getting her toddler right into a time table, get some down time for herself (by ability of ways she hasn't had when you consider that previously she grew to become into pregnant). this is not trouble-free traveling with infants till they attain an age the place they are waiting to sit down down and play on their own and that i will help you comprehend that my 3 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous continues to be not there! Her lacking the marriage isn't the tip of the international. Your brother would be there and that's what's significant. besides having toddlers at a marriage isn't lots exciting for the determine because of the fact they can't pay interest to the marriage whilst they might desire to artwork on retaining the toddler queit and chuffed.

Answer 3

We can't help what family does. We can only make the choice to accept them or not accept them. I recommend that you not punish the children on account of their parents. That would be tragic. Seriously. If you love them, and they love you, don't cut them off. They can't pick who their parents are either. Maybe his sister feels inferior and jealous of you? Maybe she creates a facade of all is good to hide all that is bad? Regardless, don't worry about their issues. Put your mental time and energy focusing on the lives you can make a difference in, and let go of the frustrations for the lives you can't change. You'll only end up chasing your own tail and getting nowhere. Breath in, breath out. No matter how bad you want to chicken choke your sister-in-law, let it go. You too will be much happier.

Answer 4

I'm sorry you are in this mess.Been there,did that! So I know what you are going thru.First of all,you have to respect your husband,Sometimes it best to walk away from people we love,even if it hurts,but if this sister in law is coming in between you two,its time! It sounds like she need to grow up and until she does, stay away from her! You will be better off.Move on with your life.Why squander your time on destructive people! Have a great life!

Answer 5

everyones got some good points, try to look for them and when you find them (and im sure you will find something) focus on that be nice and set the example , lifes too short to be bitching with family or anyone,ignore the crap and find something u guys all have in common, there must be something...those kids love you so don't let them down .good luck

Answer 6

It seems to me like your sister in law is insecure and says things to make herself look and feel better about herself. She sounds like a difficult person to deal with but please reconsider before cutting them off .... you say they kids love you and it sounds like you feel the same way (you buy them stuff they want and need and want her to bring them to you for visits). If you cut them off you won't be hurting her, you'd be hurting the children and yourself. Maybe taking a step back would help before totally cutting them off, think about it first before you make any decisions you might later regret.

Answer 7

OMG my SIL is JUST like that! We finally cut them off...cut off all ties totally. The stress level went waaaaaaaaaay down. Cut 'em off. Who needs the bullsh * t?