My daughter is 5 years old and in Kindergarden for the first time. She is coming home from school saying that no one will play with her and that she has to play by herself at recess. This breaks my heart. I also have a n 8 year old who is very "popular" with all of the kids. My 5 year old is a little on the heavy side but not much. She is very frendly so I dont know what to do to help her from feeling so left out at school. any suggestions would be great. Thanks
2006-11-13 15:31:39 · 7 answers · asked by momof2 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
It may help her to do some role-playing with you or her sibling about what to do at recess. So, this would mean that you pretend it's recess and have various scenarios where she acts out how to join others who are playing, or how to ask someone if they want to play, what to do when someone won't play with her, etc. You might also talk with her teacher as he/she should be able to help as well.
2006-11-13 19:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an age old problem, but has such an easy answer! Get involved with your childs class. Volunteer for Room Mother or something like it. Meet some of the other mothers, and talk to them about Play dates. Get phone numbers and set something up! Not only does it help her feel more comfortable in Kindergarten, but it helps you make new friends too! These are the parents that you are going to "grow up" with! Your kids will be graduating together! Why not get involved with her life? And make friends too! It sounds like she is having problems making friends because she is shy... but at her own house.. it is much easier to bond with someone. Set up play dates.. throw a Christmas party for her classmates.. or set up a Sat that 3 or 4 of the kids can come over. Talk to her teacher and ask her which kids would be closest to her "personality"... and let the friendships begin!!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-11-14 10:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my son was in kindergarden, he was the same way. Although he was on the short and scrawny side of things. After a few weeks of him coming home and begging me not to make him go back, I took a day off of work and went to school with him, volunteered in his class for the day. I made sure that when they were playing at recess, I was playing a fun game with Logan, I asked several kids in his class if they wanted to play with us. During that recess my son only made one truly good friend, the rest were not interested in him, just the game. However, that one friend once made, turned into three by the end of the month, and he was just fine. I made sure to send a card to the parents of his friends and give them my info to see if they wanted to do a play date. Sometimes shy kids just need to be shown HOW to make friends. Good luck.
2006-11-17 12:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the teacher and tell her about your daughter's problem. Also why don't you set up play dates w/some of the girls in her class. Maybe you could even volunteer in the class to see what is going on. Maybe she is just very reserved at school. Good luck.
I also have a kindergartner so I can completely understand.
2006-11-13 15:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by MVAC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, C'mon don't worry too much about it. She will find a way. Continue talking her about love & friendship. Take her to other families and let her mingle with others. Let her play with other kids. It will be a good idea to let her play with one friend at a time. Try with her different friends. I have a 6 & 3 year old girls and not having much problems.
2006-11-13 16:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by yzyf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She will eventually make friends, be patient. She is probably a little more shy than your other daughter and it will take her longer. Try inviting some of her classmates over for a little party and let them get to know her. It sucks being shy, my heart goes out to her.
2006-11-13 15:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If baby girl is on the heavy side kids can be cruel it just shows what type of parents they have. UMM my idea would be to have baby girl say hi to all the other girls in school or maybe tell baby girl to tell other girls that she likes there clothes or she likes the way there hair is or offer herself to play with them if there playing some game or something. Most young children wont mind if someone asked them if they can play with them. i hope this helps you and your baby girl
2006-11-13 15:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋