My GF is hanging out with her X, she broke up with him for me and now he is hanging out with her and helping her with home work and calling now and then and stuff, she says its ok because he was a friend of the family long before they ever went out, they dated for a year. Now she tells me that she would never go back out with him even if we weren’t going out. I’m still not Comfortable with this, I have tried to push the issue a little but she tells me he is just a friend now...comments ideas thoughts
2006-11-13 15:30:11 · 9 answers · asked by nitronuke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like if its your girlfriend and you have a problem with it, its on her to resolve it! You shouldnt have to say anything to the guy at all. Thats her situation. Tell her once and for all how oyu feel about it and if she does not do something ( stop hanging out with him or make him stop calling so much, w/e would make you more comfortable) then she does not care enough about you! I think she should care enough to ease your mind and to put you before him!
2006-11-14 02:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by CandyAppleRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be worried. The last relationship I was in ended badly for this same reason. She left him to be with me, but she never stopped talking to him. They had gone out for 2 years and I had only known her a few months. So he knew exactly what she wanted to hear, and got her back. So from personal experience, be worried.
2006-11-13 23:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by shinradrone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all about security my friend. You either trust her or you don't. SImple as that. If you trust her. Let it go. If there is something going on it'll come out eventually. Don't stress. It doesn't help your relationship. Show her you trust her and that you are ok with it. Accept it. If you can't accept it then you have other issues you need to talk to her about.
2006-11-13 23:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by TodboT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
same thing happen to me, we went out for 4 months, and in the last month, they started talking to each other again (they work together), thats when it went downhill, we werent exactly doing well either, but im pretty sure that if she hadn't talked to him, we could of worked things out, and guess what, she going out with him now, and now as fate would have it the tables are turned, im talking to her now and hes worried bout me, long story short, play it cool, but also keep the pressure up and to be honest just talk things out if anything does happen becasue if you dont talk guess what he will, feel free to email me if you need more info
2006-11-13 23:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by bobbr241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she would never go back out with him,Hell you are letting him "BONE" her.She may not want a relationship with him,but the fact she still puts herself around him only says one thing! She wants it! Dude,Kick his ***,you may need to kick her ***..lol.Tell her to hire a tutor,the only homework help she is getting from him,is what you are not giving to her.Dude,Dump the Biiiiiiiooooooooooottttttttccccccccccccchhhhhhhhhhhh!
She is playing you,maybe the x-boyfriend too!
Move on Bro!
Tell her that your x is coming over to cook you dinner!See what that cu#t thinks about that! lol
2006-11-13 23:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this happened to me with my bf i didnt like him hanging around with his ex's either and its a totally normal feeling...although jealousy is a terrible feeling it can get you in alot of trouble with your girl. you just have to tell her again...and again until she unbderstands where your coming from. although you will have to accept that sometimes girls still can have friendships with guys when they are not interested in them at all. if her ex is calling and coming over really often id start to get a bit worried...trust your girl...but i wouldnt trust him good luck!!!
2006-11-13 23:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by carolyn t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to trust her or move on. Trust is the foundation of a relationship.
2006-11-13 23:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, normally I tend to be very liberal on this kind of stuff, saying if your not married, or whatever, not much you can do. BUT, in THIS case, it is UNACCEPTABLE. You OR him. Tell her, it's your ultimatum and STICK to it.
2006-11-13 23:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Either you trust her or you don't. If you don't, why be in a relationship? If you do, don't worry about it.
2006-11-13 23:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋