My SO left his emails on MY computer when he left for work. He has an ex-lover that he had promised me he would not be in contact with anymore last March. I perused them this past Sat. when he left his emial wide open on my computer, because I was curious if he had really stopped the correspondence, calling and visiting. In the emails I found that he hadn't. He says he's sorry, shouldn't have made a promise like that, "nothing" is going on...they're just friends, and that I'm out of line reading them and jealous. I think he's deceitful and dishonest. Obviously, things are not going well.
2006-11-13 15:25:48 · 20 answers · asked by LuckyEddie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is lying to you about that, then what esle is he lying about? You can't trust him and he proved that to you. Get out now.
2006-11-13 15:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could look at this one of two ways...Your S.O. left them for you to see for one of two reasons...#1 so that you would read them & see that it is innocent, or #2 so that you would read them, flip out, and then they could use it against you. If there wasn't a hidden agenda then they wouldn't have been left out in the open for you to read. I think there is more to this story then you have told us. Is there an underlying game going on here? Maybe not on your part, but have you felt played with before this? My guess is yes you have, get out now sweets before you get your heart broken...you deserve better than an immature game player!
Good Luck!
2006-11-13 23:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.... It is human nature to be curious. It is just a bummer to find something that was not supposed to be seen, but also wasn't supposed to be happening either. The important thing is, have things changed between you and your bf? Do you feel he loves you? Maybe it is time to sit down with him and have a heart to heart about how it makes you feel and find out why he feels the need to stay in touch with her. Good luck
2006-11-13 23:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's doing it on purpose because he does have something going on with her and doesn't want to just come out and say it.
When my ex was cheating on me, he used to leave obvious clues like her bra and thong on the very top of the laundry basket, her message left purposely on the machine, her number purposely left on the caller ID. So I would get angry and leave him so he wouldn't have to "hurt my feelings" because he cared so much for me. We just weren't sexually attracted to each other. (As a matter of fact, we're pretty good friends these days, which is what we should have been to begin with.)
But before he wanted me to know, he was VERY careful to delete his history and log off of the computer before I got home or before he left. Sorry, just had to share a little tidbit of the reality of life for you. It does happen.
But in answer to your question, yes, I would look and have looked as well as printed and hid them for a later confrontation.
2006-11-13 23:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by real_sweetheart_76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance is bliss, I say. Besides, this is invasion of privacy. Sure, he left it there for the world to see, but it's still not exactly an open invitation.
2006-11-13 23:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DARN RIGHTTTTT! I would! 1st of all if he's dumb enough to leave them right there open to see thats his fault! And 2nd of all you must have had a feeling something was telling you you needed to look. and good thing you did huh? How would he feel in ur shoes? If it were ur ex? yeaaaa!!! he said u were jelous? well I WONDER WHY? right? Kick'em to the curb! and good luck!
2006-11-13 23:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yea. but there is no secerets with our e-mails the pc is for fun as a matter of fact we share the same e-mail address and if he is being that waythen maybe you should ask way or better yet who he is seeing or thinking about seeing. dont let it bother you sweetie were wifes and that is what we do . hes being bad garunteed or else it would not bother him.
2006-11-13 23:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by bonnie j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap, i did it once, i found that one dude was homoseXual when i accidently read his emails sent by a friend of his who wrote that he missed the moments they had previously spent together at a vacation. Darn, i read too many details. ha ha ha
2006-11-13 23:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by ramz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would read them.
Even if I might feel a little guilty for not trusting him, how can I ever trust him if I feel uncomfortable?
If you feel you should look; trust your instincts.
2006-11-13 23:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by babyrooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that defensive, he must feel guilty or has something to hide. My husband and I have each other's passwords for everything. If a person wants to be trusted, they have to prove themselves.
2006-11-13 23:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by armywifehaney 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋