Ok, here is my problem. I dated this guy back in high school but I broke up with him after about 7 months, this was almost 7 years ago and I can get him out of my head to this day. I am so madly in love with him that all of my other relationships have failed. There is no way for us to be together because he has a live in girlfriend that he has been with for about 4 years now.
How do I move on and get over him when I am so in love??
Please, serious answers only.
2006-11-13 15:23:24 · 9 answers · asked by Insert_Name_Here25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just wanted to add that I am not obsessed(spelling?) I broke up with him because he was not dependable among other reasons. He was my first love, my first real boyfriend. He has told me that the only reason he started to date his current GF is because she reminded him of me.
2006-11-13 15:33:18 · update #1
There must have been a reason why you guys broke up after 7 months. Personally, I know how you feel because I'm in the same situation right now. I think you miss the memories more than him as your boyfriend. You guys had good times and when you think of them, you get weak and start to miss him incredibly. Honestly, I think the best way to move on would be to realize reality and accept the fact that he's with another girl, you're here. You must be a beautiful single girl. Other guys would love to be with you and treat you like a princess. I know you gave up hope, but regain it back. Love is always on the way for you. Keep your chin up.
2006-11-13 15:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ditto the counseling recommendations. There are also several great books out there.... such as 'he's really not that into you'. Sounds crazy, but actually has some really good advice in it. When my daughter had issues getting over a boy, it almost drove our entire family crazy. You have to just be open to new relationships. . even if you think you don't want to... go out!! Meet new people & accept dates with guys who might have potential -- you just never know. Also -- think of the things you hated about this other guy.... remember why you broke up!!!!
2006-11-13 23:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love w/ someone is a decision. You see all the good qualities. What about the bad ones? That's one thing time erases, the bad parts. You say he lives w/ someone else & has been there for 4 yrs. Hun, he has moved on, you need to, too!
2006-11-13 23:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by cherryfrank@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this exact same problem. it was 12 years ago for me. It was only about 6 months ago that i got over him. i, too was wondering what i could do to stop thinking about him. you don't want to hear it, but the only thing that can help you get over him is time. Just keep telling yourself that it would happen if it was meant to.
2006-11-13 23:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, after 7 years and you're still thinking of him. Its obvious, he does not want to have any relationship with you and you've got to move on with your life. Be fair to the other men who come into your life and take it from there.
2006-11-13 23:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my bf broke up with me, i was heartbroken. what i would suggest you do is: do something to keep yourself busy---like school or work or something else; take all of the stuff he gave, package it up in boxes or bags, and put it in the back of your closet; take all the pictures that you have of him on your cell and delete them; don't go out with any other guys, until you've gotten over him---just look, no touch; fantasize yourself with other guys (i know that sounds sick and gay, but it just might help). just concentrate on something, anything else to keep yourself from being so sad. i know it's hard---it was for me too. but there is a light at the end of this very dark tunnel. turn to your friends and family for support. don't be clingy, or depend on them, but go out and enjoy being with them---catch up with what's going on in their lives. just don't concentrate on that guy. it'll get better! be positive that you'll meet the real guy of your dreams! good luck!
2006-11-13 23:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by K.D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously--try counseling. He has moved on-you are only hurting yourself. You CAN get over him--you can always love him, but you have to move forward. Counseling can help
2006-11-13 23:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously you sound obsessed with him not in love. Find another guy.
2006-11-13 23:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to talk to a professional
2006-11-13 23:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋