a really shy and kind of inexperienced guy (which is adorable in my opinion) and i hooked up this past weekend. we saw each other today and it was kinda awkward but he was trying to talk to me (except that hes so godd amn shy!!).. and then i gave him a ride home and we didnt bring up the kiss or anything..
but im wondering whats going on in his head? i mean, he and i had a great night.. and keep in mind hes this shy innocent boy so hes not "playin me" haha. (believe me, this kid is like the extreme opposite of a player) so i dont necessarily expect him to ask me out or make any moves or anyhting..
my questions are, what si going on in his head, do you think? and also, what can i do to move things along? i think we could be great together, or just good friends or whatever..
thanks!!!
2006-11-13 15:11:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he's wondering if you liked it. I mean he knows that you probably did, but he's probably wondering/worrying if he was okay, He is also probably wondering if you told anyone.
"should I try and kiss her again?"
"should I wait for her to make the move?"
"was it a one time thing?"
"why am I so f*cking stupid! JUST KISS HER!...no! I cant do that"
"Does she liked me? why would she?"
"I just want to get out of this carrrrrr"
"God shes so hot"
2006-11-13 15:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that he tried to talk to you was a shining moment. He pushed, now its time for you to push back. You made it very clear that he wont ask you out and you also made i clear that you like him. Therefore, you ask him out. Yeah i know that sounds weird but it really isn't all that weird. It might actually open him up and help him start talking to you. In terms of whats going on in his head his probably over analyzing the situation and therefore is still afraid to bring up the kiss issue. Another thing you can do that is a definite sign to him that you like and are interested is your body language. You can hold him, put your head on his chest, smile at him, sit next to him, sit on his lap etc. Actually you might want to combine either physical behavior trait above along with telling him you like him. You shouldn't be afraid to do this. Especially since you said that you two would be a great couple together. I hope it really works out for you. :)
2006-11-13 23:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...
He sounds just like me. So this is what I think is going on in his head...
He just kissed you so he doesn't know how you felt about the kiss. He might not want to bring it up until you do. I think that once a shy guy kisses for the first time, it just might be awkward being around the person he first kissed; so kiss him again, just to show him you liked the last kiss and that you still like him.
Hey... I hope this helps you out. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-13 23:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by looking4love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion he's just a good guy w/ low self esteem, but i bet he likes you and there is no doubt about it, i guess he's just worrying too much of what you might think of him and afraid that he might do something wrong in front of you, or probably he just don't know what to do.. so my advice is to try and help him a bit, let him feel comfortable when both of you are having a conversation, ask him why is he shy or is he shy? so that he could open up.. ^_^ hope this could help
2006-11-13 23:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by zded 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shy guy. Lets say he likes you. I mean he really really likes you. So about that "and then i gave him ride home and we didn't bring up the kiss or anything..." i bet you lots of money that as soon as he got in his room he just hated himself so much. Im sure he wanted to kiss you. Why? because he must watch lots of movies and acording to movies he imagines the world so in movie after car ride they usually kiss. Well in his head is going on lots of things he plan s out how you guys will meet, where u guys will walk. what are possible topics to talk about. how could he make you happy (getting a gift or flower) but then how he will present it to you. and most of all as soon as he gets home he regrets every moment he couldn't acomplish becuase he is so damn shy. As soon as he will get confortable around you he will be totally awesome and different person. what u guys can do it just go to like park during time when only few or no ppl are there. just talk about stuff. then first try to go to places where only couples could walk around or just few ppl around. that is how he will get confortable around you. later in publich he will not notice other people around and he will be open and more confortable to express his feelings. with few things you could make movie. if you cannot wait any longer. but i don' tthink its a problem..
most of his questions in his heard are WHAT IF. what if she turns away? what if she doesn't like it? what if she laughts? what if i say something wrong? what if she doesn't want to do it? what if shes not in mood? what if its not the right time? when he goes home he says. "if its not right time then she would simply say or gove a sign" and he regrets that he didn't do anything....
2006-11-14 15:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by ed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but it's probably going to be a waste of your time. I believe most shy guys come out of their shells on their own, not on the account of some wonderful girl who pops into their life. He's probably going to be quiet and shy around you during your entire relationship, and you don't sound like the type of person who wants to deal with that. Best tell him straight out that you really like him, but he's too shy, and if he were to work up the courage you'd like him a lot more and then LEAVE HIM. He'll get the message, eventually.
But, if you insist and you have the patience, go for it. You'll probably wind up doing a lot of the decision-making, though.
2006-11-13 23:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You make him really nervous because you are a girl he really likes, and in his head he is scrambling through a million different things to say. Then when he realizes he needs to say something he picks something kind of lame, instead of just going with the flow of conversation and saying what he feels. Honestly, bring a lil alcohol into the picture, and initiate the conversation subject, then give him time to get comfortable.
2006-11-13 23:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's shy and inexperienced, he probably really likes you and it's no bad thing to let him take some time. Plus if you begin your relationship by actually getting to know each other beforehand, the physical stuff will be much more genuine and real.
2006-11-13 23:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can know exactly what's going on inside another's head. That's just the way we're wired. However, if you really want to know, it's important that you develop communication with him. He may be shy, but something's whirring around under that noggin. Talk to him. get to know what makes him tick. It may surprise you or it may make you pause and put on the brakes.
2006-11-13 23:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him if he'd like to go out sometime. If he's shy, it'll probably be you doing all the initiating.
2006-11-13 23:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋