Disciplining Children?

Question

Whats the best way to discipline your child? I believe in spanking them because its the only way to get the message across to them but i always feel guilty after spanking them what other ways can discipline them?...My mother told me that if your child doesn't fall into fetal position with their hands over their head when you walk into a room you did a bad job as a parent ....

Answer 1

Ok now. I'm finally realizing why your youngest child is so ugly. You have beaten him so bad while he's passed out in the tent in the back yard after you've fed him vodka in a bottle and had weird sexual acts with your boyfriend while your 41 year old rich husband watches the whole thing. Ok, now they do need to take away all 5 children and lock you away in a womens prison for the rest of your life!

Answer 2

I beleive in spanking your child also, but there are people out there that think this is child abuse and that is bogus. Spanking your child is on thing. Beating your child is another. I beleive they should bring back "the old school". As far as any other way of disciplining them try taking away the tv or something they really enjoy for awhile they really dont like that or make em sit on the couch or stand them in a corner(for a certain amount of time) They will eventually get the picture. Still once in awhile have to give them a swat on the butt.
When you take something away make them earn it back. When mine get something taken away and they act up again I add another day to the punishment.
But you have to stick with it and not give in or you'll be right back to where you started.

Answer 3

The main thing is to set a base of respect, both ways. My daughter is almost 13 and I haven't had to tap her bottom since she was about 4. Most times the parent needs the time out especially if the parent is angry. I take away privileges, or one item as a discipline.If I'm really angry with her I send her to her room until I calm down, then I decide a punishment. Remember grounding or loss of toys etc. or time out should be timed by a child's age. After a child is older spanking has an opposite effect, respect is important.

Answer 4

Oh, even though I am not a mother, meaning I never experienced having a child, I was able to raise my sister's kids. I never spank them. But we always urgued trying to explain this and that so that they won't do such bad things again. Also, there were times when I simply ignored their bad behaviors and when they were in good moods, that's the time I would discussed with them in a nice way that they need not to do this and that. And that's very effective.

One time, I had to study for my final exams, all I did was to give the girl colored pencils and crayons for her to draw; and the boy on my other side to use only a pencil to scribble or write letters. And later on, we would post them on the walls or around the bedroom for them to appreciate their masterpieces.

Actually, an unforgettable experience I had with them was when i had to take a nap one morning. I was half awake when the boy bid me goodbye on their way to their nursery school. But when I woke up, I found out that my old Rolex watch was missing. Because before I took a nap, I hanged my watch on the kids' bicycle. For almost 3 weeks I kept searching for it. It so happened that I discussed this problem to our family driver. He said that he saw the girl wearing my watch. Well, I asked the girl in such a very cool manner. And the only thing I got was that she asked permission from the bicycle!!!!!!!! Well, although her Mom scolded me in return for not scolding the child. I did not scold her. Because she's only a child! And scolding here would only destroy the kid's disposition in life. The watch can be replaced but the child emotion is more important than the watch.
So, please try to find ways to explain to your kids in a very cool and nice way. It's more effective.

Answer 5

Reward and consequence is best. If they are bad, take away a toy or privilege. Refuse to clean up, you do it for them & they have to pay (or do chores) to "buy" back their stuff. When they are good make sure you reward them! This is huge, it works better than any punishment or style of discipline I have found. Don't spank, it will not make them respect you or your rules, they will only fear you! Be creative & make chore charts, schedules of clean-up times, give them an allowance, movie night, have a cookie eating contest, anything to get them focused on a goal of good behavior.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Spanking is good directly after they behave badly, but remeber you must follow through with more actions like a home boot camp or putting them to bed or taking away something that they love.
Spanking does not do enough they need something else to make their red butts really sting.
Also a tip to avoid grocery store tantrums,bring a small wooden spoon to threten thm with,i guarantee they won't make a wimper.
It even works on my teens.Have fun

Answer 7

seems to my your mother is the bad parent here! no offense!! that is beating your kids, not disciplining them!! today if you where like this with your kids, you'd lose them and for good reason!!!! the children service laws state, you can only us the open hand and on the bottom only!! no more the 2-3 swats and you can not leave marks that stay for a long period!! don't get me wrong, i spank my kids for something that are really bad, but for minior stuff, they get time out!!!!!!

Answer 8

My mother didn't spank-she took toys away, we had to do extra chores to earn them back one by one, that could take days. We would be grounded-where she would send us to our rooms with no toys/tv's/phones. There are tons of other ways to discipline than raising a hand, depending on their age.

Answer 9

your mom is wrong
discipline means teaching and shaping behavior for the desired result(appropriate and safe actions) with consequences that teach not harm.
if you feel guilty spanking your children then stop doing it and work out a system of consequences that does not include spanking
one of my favorites for talking back is for the child to spend "quality bonding time with parents" aka grounded.
or time out for fussing with sibling involved sitting on the kitchen floor back to back and in silence for minutes(their ages added then divided by 2) and if they talked/fussed or backs did not touch then the time started over.
then once the youngest told me I could not put her to bed early("you must be sleep deprived if you are acting like this") like before the sun went down and her older sister popped her head in and said "oh yes she can"
it is a juggling act to be consequence and age appropriate and effective and consistent.

Answer 10

i no that its hard not to lose ur temper because thats were the smacking comes in to the equation its more u getting ur fustrations out on ur child. they push the boundrys because they are trying to learn where they stand with you and in the family. u dont need to smack ur voice should be enough when u get angry .there not stupid children that is. if they are not listening u get down to there hight level explain what they are doing wrong and if they keep doing it take there toys away or something that they love. i guess that what i am trying to say is that ur child should eventually understand that when u have had enough with there behaviour ur tone of voice they should understand. i dont smack my 23 month old daughter and even her age she undersatnds that i have had enough. when they grow up and have childern of there own the cycle will continue and it dosent need to.