I really don't know how to deal with this. I am really upset. He could have told me that he was into guys before we had sex. I wish he would have told me before that he was bisexual. How do I deal with this situation. I am really hurt.
2006-11-13 15:00:59 · 7 answers · asked by vgns360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well I think the lesson is that you should always get to know someone better before having sex. Either you guys didn't talk honestly and ask the hard questions or he LIED to you when you asked him about his sexual experiences and orientation.
If he lied then you should definitely break up with him.
If you didn't ask the hard questions then you need to decide if you are okay dating a man who is bisexual
and bisexuality means he is attracted to both men and women it doesn't mean that he sleeps with men within the confines of your relationship
and if he is your boyfriend does that mean you two don't fool around with other people?
Figure out your position first and then have the conversation with him about the status of your relationship. You have the power to make a decision about where things go from this point on and just because you had sex doesn't mean you have to continue the relationship.
Consider it a lesson learned and be sure to get to know the next guy first before having sex and ask the hard questions about sexual experiences, orientation, and the like.
2006-11-13 15:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetness2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 talk 2 him about that.and dose it mean u would have talked 2 him any way if he would have told u he was BY.Take it from some one who just relizied she was gay and in love w/ a very wonderful woman.DON'T JUDGE him for what he is and sit down w/ ur self and do whats in ur hart if u can deal w/ this or not don't take ur self or him through unneeded changes or ur self if u can handle it just explain it 2 him and i'm sure he will under stand it takes avery strong person 2 deal w/ that .
2006-11-13 15:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by djonecat@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, bisexual just means he likes both sexes, but he picked you over having a boyfriend, there's nothing wrong with that.
You shouldn't feel any lessed loved. than before. there are alot of bi people out there, they have to choose male or female eventually.
it is no differant than him saying. well i like people with this hair color also, or i prefer someone with this body weight instead.
he accepts you, and vise versa, that is what a relationship is.
2006-11-13 15:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by anjui63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm bisexual, but I would definitely tell anyone I was dating beforehand who I am. If you love him for who he is, maybe you can look past this together and try to cope with it? If not, perhaps you just need to end the relationship and move on?
2006-11-13 15:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say you wish he had told you before, does this mean you wouldn't have cared as long as he was honest?
I'm not saying that is the right policy, definetely a tough situation.
2006-11-13 15:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't have the guts to tell you that up front, then what else is he hiding? Dump his a-s-s.
2006-11-13 15:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you honestly have to talk to him
not us
jus be open with him
tell him how u feel about it
2006-11-13 15:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋