Whenever I know a guy likes me, I try to push him away. I like him too, but for some reason, I disregard him. Sometimes, I even try to stay away from him. Once, this guy friend of mine was in my room. We were playing and then he put his arm on my shoulder. The first sentence I said to him was, “Get your hands off me.” I felt awful, because I also like him. Another time is when I noticed this guy, also a friend, acting all strange around me. Whenever I look at him, he look back with a smile, then he look away, and then he look back at me again. He always tries to stay close to me. For some reason I also like him. He is very sympathetic. I also try to stay away from him. For other guys, I did the same. What is wrong with me? Why do I push them away when I like them?
2006-11-13 14:55:32 · 16 answers · asked by Cecilia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a difficult concept. The only thing i can think of is that you are not ready for the realitonship, or this is not the right guy. Itsd hard, sometimes i do the same thing. Its kinda of a protection, maybe you were hurt and dont want it to happen again. Im not sure how old you are or anything, what your experiences are but think of things that have happened to you in the past, this may be affecting how you are acting towards boy/ boys you poetentially like.
2006-11-13 14:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by kittykatB4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have a type of commitment issue. You could be worried about putting your heart on the line and then either getting hurt or hurting someone.
I wonder if in your past somewhere you had an instance in which someone hurt your or you unwittingly hurt someone else and just feel terrible about it.
The other thing maybe there is a trust issue involved where your afraid of letting another person into your life so deeply.
Personally a suggestion maybe to keep a journal of sorts keeping tabs of how you feel when this happens. This may help you analyze whats going on and why you act the way you do.
Either way good luck, I'm sure with time you'll find out whats up and next thing you know "BAM" your in love.
2006-11-13 15:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is just instinct, maybe you have had your heart broken before and your heart doesn't want to end up in the same route again. I mean having a broken heart is one of the hardest thing to get over, trust me I have troubles with every single one of my crushes. Or it could be the fact that you do not want to wait any longer for him to make the move because you feel as if you will get your heart broken... which may not be the case. Just try your hardest to think positively like maybe you and this guy CAN be a good couple and that YOU BELONG TOGETHER, and it will actually make your confidence shine and give u the guts to not keep pushing him away!
2016-03-19 07:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's normal...however a lot of ppl (including me) do this! You have a fear of attachment...and mainly a fear of being hurt.
The best way to get over it (Ive only overcome this with one guy) is to simply trust the person and force yourself to not push him away. I was lucky that I met a guy who understood and figured it out...so he just wouldn't give up.
2006-11-13 14:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by mel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your doctor about this , you could have a problem, or If you are like me a little when i get with a man I will try to push him away even be mean to see if he really likes me.. To see if he really cares. Tricia
2006-11-13 14:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by trickytrish79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, except I don't like the guys that hit on me. There's nothing wrong with you; a lot of girls do the same I'm sure, just like the boys do by teasing you.
2006-11-13 14:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by melomane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a sign of depression. "fear of success" is a classic symptom. either that, or you are really shy, or you've gone through something in your life that has emotionally affected you in such a way that you put up this protective wall around your emotions.
i'd seek guidance from a professional that can help you understand yourself better..
2006-11-13 14:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the same way. When a guy doesnt show me to much attention or that he likes me, i look @ it as a game to won, as sad as it is, and once i get him wrapped around my finger, i let him go? i dont know why.
2006-11-13 14:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be wrong and you seem to young to be worrying about boys yet, but perhaps you're just shy or afraid of boys.
2006-11-13 15:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel this way alot too. nothing wrong with you, your prbly just scared to face commitment right now. or amybe you just dont want to feel hurt because ur not 100% sure if they like you and dont want to admite your true feelingsl\. thats how i get all the time. trust me its cmpletly normal
2006-11-13 14:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by maizy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋