He never wants to do anything but play video games (that don't include me) and watch sci fi TV (which I'm not a huge fan of). So yes, it IS kind of boring! But then whenever I mention this politely, he gets sad & depressed.
Once I finally manage to help him feel better again, everything is "ok" again, except that it ISN'T bc we never addressed the real issue of how I want more intellectual challenge and stimulation out of this relationship.
How can we resolve this? He's so hyper-sensitive that I can't bring up any problems to discuss in a rational manner -- he just overreacts and starts crying about it!
How can I get him to stop being so sensitive so that we can just talk about our issues and work things out?
2006-11-13 14:46:44 · 6 answers · asked by cajun m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in this i think the best thing to do is just tell him...doesn't matter if he's too sensitive..he's a man let him realize that....if he can't than i don't think he good for you..or what your looking for...
2006-11-13 14:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by hotsauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds VERY manipulative!! If he is all that insecure and immature, are you sure you really want to keep seeing him? If you are left alone, even when you are with him, you are still home alone. If he ignores you and/or the situation, you must ask yourself "Am I better off with him, or without him?". That should be the best guide for you. I wish you the best either way.
2006-11-13 22:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Gran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit massaging his ego while he is all into self gratification -doing what he wants without regard for your time,while you reassure him-and go out and have fun with girlfriends or take up a new hobby to do at home.Why waste time? If communication fails TAKE ACTION to get a result.
2006-11-13 22:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very insecure. you can't help him with that, it is an internal problem he must deal with. you may have to break up with him or else just try to deal with him being that way. but if you can't communicate because of his anxiety that's not really your fault.
2006-11-13 22:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by advicemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then take him through the motions,tell him how you feel,let him cry if he has to,but solve the problem.It will only make him stronger.
2006-11-13 22:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think HE'S getting bored with you. he just wants you to say that you are the one who's bored with him so that he won't have a guilty conscience.
2006-11-13 22:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋