what do guys actully like in a girlfriend?

Question

I've been dating this guy for about 9 monthes now, he's wonderful in every way ... things are great but, i want to act like his girlfriend not just one of the guys

i want to know what do guys really like in a girlfriend ... like, what kind of side of my personallity should i shine ... and like what are the best things a girlfriend can do for you ..

i hope that makes sense. Please just give me some points of a different view

Answer 1

Respect. Seriously. Treat him with respect. Let him know that you are proud of him. When he opens the door for you, go through it and don't put your hand out towards the handle. Say thank you. Let HIM be the guy.

There are three levels of respect:
1) Disrespect (don't EVER do this) This includes insulting him or berating him in public. Telling him what to do. Acting like you are the boss. It also includes putting other people in front of him. If you are with him and a GREAT friend calls, ask them if you can call them back. You should by now have deep feelings for this guy, right? You think he's the most important person in the world? If not, then reprioritize. One day your husband WILL (SHOULD) be the most important person in your life. Even more important than your children. Anyway, treat this guy like he's the most important person in the world to you.
2) Courtesy. This is simply the LACK of disrespect. People quite often consider this respect. It's not. If someone reaches this level with you then they are no better than anybody else in the world. Courtesy is just not being rude. You should of course be courteous towards him. But you really need to go beyond simple courtesy. HONOR him.
3) TRUE respect. You should reach the point where you believe everything he says. You should totally believe in him. If you don't believe in him, then why are you with him anyway? If you still doubt him, either start trusting him or dump him. If you do believe in him, then treat him that way. Really show him TRUE respect. Not just courtesy. SHOW him that HE is number one. He should by now start to supplant your Dad as the man you look to for advice and understanding. Eventually you will look to your husband for support instead of your Dad. If you look to your Dad instead of your husband, then you will be disrespecting your Husband. There is a reason why guys ask Fathers for their daughter's hand in marriage before the girl knows it's coming. There's a reason why Dad's give their daughters away. Of course your boyfriend isn't there yet, but make him see that you will put him above your father one day.

Vocalize your appreciation for him. When you are in a romantic mood, tell him a specific compliment. If he gives good backrubs, tell him, "honey, you give the BEST backrubs." And it doesn't have to be something that he does for you either. If he is good at video games, when he does something good while playing, tell him he's the best. But whatever the compliment, it MUST be genuine. Read Love & Respect. Lot's of great advice in there.

Oh, and did I say... Let him be the man?

Yeah, do that too.

Answer 2

haha good question... seems everyday is different and alike @ the same time.. if that makes sense. One minute they can like this about you then next month they can hate it. Guys are just confusing in general!

Answer 3

guys like a clean friendly respectful girl.
a girl who has respect for her family, for him and who is not easy to other guys..I think................or there are no more guys who want these things in girls these days.?

Answer 4

respect, understanding, and a good sense of humor.