im 13 and i love a guy that is 18 we have known each other now for 4 months. and im head over heals in love.
is this right?
he says that he doesn't want to do anything sexually .
which suits me.
but wen we hug and kiss i feel as nothin else matters.
but i havent told my parents.
i dont think they would agree.
should i still date him or not ?
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2006-11-13 14:32:05 · 40 answers · asked by stacey s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are really head or heels with him you should leave him alone. I know that it sounds crazy but you are so young. If your parents ever found out that you are making out with a 18 year old man then they will flip out. Leave him alone or he can wind up in jail. Besides lets be honest. What does he see in a 13 year old girl. Are you a prize to talk about with his friends? Give it some thought hon.
2006-11-13 14:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by Staci R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and done that girlie... best thing for you to do is find someone your own age... there's a few reasons why, and here they are...
1. you're parents would not approve.. obviously that's why you haven't told them yet
2. he's an adult and you're barely a teenager... if and when your parents find out, your "boy-friend" could do some jail time for statutory rape... and then he would be registered into the state registry as a sex offender... would you really want to do that to him??? it happens EVERY DAY!!!
3. since he's 18, which means he's legally an ADULT... and you're just 13... that's kinda SICK for him to be feeling you up and stuff... society calls that pedophilia and molestation
4. chances are, since you're prolly still in middle school, this guy of yours is going to break your heart... he prolly just wants some young coochie and is runnin game on you until you give him what he wants... he's got you right where he wants you... "head over heals"... he's just getting started into adult hood... and he's got lots and lots of partying to do... he's nowhere ready to settle down with a 13y/o
sorry to be so harsh... but that's the reality girlie !!!
be safe... and act smart !!! good luck !!!
2006-11-13 14:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by brandiamour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a 13 year old your still kind of young to think about sex and all that. He is 18 and shouldnt be getting into a relationship with you until your a little bit older. For him its illegal and he can go to jail, even if your not having sex and your parents dont agree. If they dont agree they can press charges and get him thrown in jail for molestation or whatever the circumstances are.
If I were you hun I would break it off before your feelings get any stronger that way you wont be as heartbroken.
Another option would be to ask him what he thinks you guys should do.
2006-11-13 14:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by blondbeauty1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can be glad your not my little girl, id break his f_ _ _ing neck just 4 putting his paws on a 13 y/o child, 18 is way to old at your stage of life, and peffect jail time 4 him, unless youve already had a child in all but 5 states , your total jail bait for him or anyone else 18 y/o or over,thy n find yourself a nice boy around 14 15 at the oldest you'd be much better off and have a lot more in common,, stinger 5906,
2006-11-13 14:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age feelings seem to be everything; but if you make a mistake then the rest of your life you will pay. If it's okay then you should talk to your parents, who do you think will have to deal with this if you lose your head and get into trouble. Mr. wonderful may be moving on to the next available 13 year old who lets her feelings lead her while you are left alone. If he is really great then he will want to know your parents and to do the proper thing.
2006-11-13 14:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I cant tell you not to love him, or i'd be a hypocrite. Although at the age of 13 you are still pretty young to be dating a guy that old. I know if i was 13 and dating a guy 5 years older my dad would freak. On the other hand you guys arent' doing anything sexually, which is good seeing how you are still "jail bait" Just take it slow, wait til your a little bit older,,,good luck
2006-11-13 14:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by need4speed 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
O.M.G
I don't usually read these but yeah ...
The answer is: NO you should NOT be kissing an 18 year old man! If you really like him that much, stop seeing him for his own good. If you guys get caught he is the one who ends up in prison. And oh gosh ... I couldn't help it. I ended up reading it anyways. I think you should end the relationship for his own good like I said before. Your parents will most likely FREAK if they found out and they may stop you from seeing him and they may call the cops on him.
2006-11-13 14:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
18 might be a bit old for you...But I've been there before I just kept it to my self untill I was 18 and in college then it was alright. That's just the way things work. But I really do doubt it's "REAL" love it's probably infatuation but you never know.
2006-11-13 14:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get that poor boy put in jail!
Ever heard of Statutory Rape? DO NOT ruin his life.
Let it go. You cannot possibly be in love at 13. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Trust me. I'll be 30 in 4 days and I'm NOT looking forward to it.
2006-11-13 14:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by real_sweetheart_76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats a bit of an age difference....your still a kid and he is an adult...wouldnt you rather enjoy life as a kid first!? Plus what does an 18 year old preverted boy want to do with anything about a 13 year old child...?
2006-11-13 14:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋