I'm dating a guy, but it seems like I'm the guy in the relationship. Like, I'm always the one to call him or email him and ask to get together and stuff. If I didn't ask to get together, I don't know if he ever would. I know he's interested because I can definitely tell he is interested when we are together, and he is the one who starts trying to kiss me and stuff like that and then he is sad when I have to go. So then why doesn't he email me or call me? He emails me back, but only when I email him first. It's now been about three days since we were in contact last and I'm trying to wait for him to email me this time. What is with him?
2006-11-13 14:29:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he that shy? Maybe you should just bite the bullet and share with him the concerns you just shared with the yahoo world. On your next meeting, (which may be one that you initiated) talk about this openly with him. If he sounds like he has a convincing reason for never calling or emailing, give him the benefit of the doubt. If you still get no calls or emails from him after that, then I would suggest you start looking for a new boyfriend.
2006-11-13 14:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Godsgr8 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is in it for the intimacy and not for you.
Next time you see him ask him why he never calls or emails you. Sometimes guys are just like that. If he cared for you at all, he would phone you, even if it was just once every week or two. It means he is thinking of you.
He doesn't need to do any of the work because you are initiating all contact. You are chasing him, so he just has to sit back and enjoy the ride.
Make him come to you. Say, the next time you actually see him, just say, "ok, your pick for next time we go out. Suprise me. When you have it worked out, call me". And see how long it takes.
If he doesn't call or email you at all, then forget about it. And find someone else.
2006-11-13 22:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop contacting him. He's not that interested. He knows your phone number and email address. He knows how to contact you if he wants. But why should he if you always contact him? If you don't hear from him for awhile, take that as a sign to start dating other people.
2006-11-13 22:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't email at all. Let him realize what he could lose when it's not there. You might be making it a little too easy or he could be interested in other girls. Be careful. You two are only dating so he could be only dating other women also and trying to figure out what he wants......
2006-11-13 22:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your making all the first moves. Stop it and see if he will contact you next to set something up. Then you'll see if he really is interested in you. Dont assume that because he starts kissing you he is interested in you. That could also mean that maybe he just wants some sex.
2006-11-13 22:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Hal Jordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, whatever happened to the feminist movement? It's amazing how women want this and that but don't think that they should have to give up anything for it or work for it.
If you don't like it then either tell him (or do you think he's a mind-reader?) or just dump him (since there is nothing that says you have to be dating him). If you feel like you're the guy in the relationship, then grow a pair.
2006-11-13 22:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hum... odd that is , well u could wait till he contacts u , as an attempt to get him in the habbit of makeing contact u , talking with him about it is an option , or just accept things the way they are.. I think u should go with the communication part personally but thats just me ...
2006-11-13 22:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is interested in USING you and you are ALLOWING, in fact ASKING him to. He's not the one with the problem. He is being a "normal" male, when a girl makes herself available to be used a guy will do just that. You're making yourself a doormat for this guy and he's going scrape his shitty boots on ya. What's with YOU?
2006-11-13 22:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the back seat for awhile and see if he steps up to the plate. If he doesn't then maybe he doesn't want to put forth the energy that is needed to keep the relationship alive. I know it can get boring for you if you wait too long.
2006-11-13 22:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG sweet heart i was in the same boat only acouple of weeks ago i almost thought this was one of my questions. Ok you have to give him his space let him contact you. Men are hunters they want to chase. Don't make it easy for him buy contacting him, he might think you are smothering him. If he is intersted in you he will do anything to pin you down, if not its next.
2006-11-13 22:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋