Should I date a co-worker? But I am afraid things would be awkward in the workplace if things don't work out.

Answer 1

Dating and working. Working & playing. Sounds contradictory, right?

Wrong.

You can no more control your heart than you can stop breathing.
But ask yourself if what you are feeling is LOVE or LUST.

Dating a co-worker (to your EMPLOYER) means you have been slacking off on his time-clock; something that may cause problems between you and the co-worker in the future. By merely posing the question, you indicate your fear of on-the-job-involvement. You are attracted to him/her, but you are afraid to commit.

Think about what that means. You are not SURE about this co-worker, are not prepared for a failed relationship among your peers, and are reluctant to completely give of yourself before you know answers.

I have learned that "when in doubt, DON'T."

You have made a valid point. If things don't work out between you, more than likely, EVERYONE at the job will know about it.

Besides being "awkward," you risk losing your job, your reputation and your appeal to perhaps, a more suitable partner.

BUT - on the other hand...

Love (true love, that is) has NO Address. This means it is entirely possible for you to meet your soulmate while dating a co-worker.

Therefore, my advice is for you to:
1. GO SLOW (don't rush into anything)
2. GO PUBLIC (get to know him/her initally in the company of other co-workers at a restaurant, snack bar, etc.)
3. GO AWARE (learn about his/her past relationships. You just may be another conquest or victim #___ on their playa's list)

Enjoy the attention but always be aware of the RISKS. And if true love prevails, welcome it.

I wish you well, my friend. Thanks for posting your question.

Answer 2

You need to be very careful. Do the two of you work in the same department or report to each other in a supervisory capacity (or would if one of you were promoted?) Situations like this are touchy, especially if it does not work out.

Would you have to keep it a secret? Would you be able to? You need to check your human resources department, some jobs even forbid employees from dating one another (too much potential drama in the workplace from bad/broken romances).

Think out all of the potential pros and cons (especially the cons and if the relationship does not work out -- you may be forced to find another job if the two of you could not even stand to be near each other in a breakup).

There is a saying that, "one should not s#!+ where one eats"

Good Luck

Answer 3

Hello icez_77,

I hear what they all say. That you don't swim off of the company pier. Don't dip your quill in the company ink well. All of that. But, what are going to do? You spend most of your days and even some of your evenings being at one place. You get to know people really well there much more than you would from school, or night clubs, or even your church.

It's quite understandable that you would have strong relationships with people who you work with. Personally, I don't see a problem with that, if it's OK with your employer. Sometimes they have rules against that. Some don't care. Where I work, they don't really care and there are quite a few couples where I work (and a few X-wives and husbands too).

If you go at it just looking for solid friendships, you can't go wrong. I met my second wife at my work and we're still married, so I know that it can work, but we both work very hard at keeping our relationship.

Best of luck to you.

--Rick

Answer 4

I met my man at our old workplace. Both of us decided to move on and settle for a new job elsewhere after a few months of hooking up for a better healthier environment.

If youre not ready to switch to a new workplace then buckle up,
the road youre about to take can be really rough and bumpy.

Dont make a hasty decision to switch,give it a little time to tell whether your relationship is actually going somewhere and is worth sacrificing your precious job.

Answer 5

If you have got to ask, you're too younger. Women recognise what to do, ladies generally tend to invite those questions about a public discussion board. Also, you're in most cases younger because of the intentional wrong spelling of mi and sexi.

Answer 6

I've been in this EXACT situation. I started working at a place where there are about 20 employees. There was this guy that just caught my attention and he was everything I look for in a guy. He was VERY reserved about starting something but I had a VERY good feeling about it. I finally convinced him to give it a shot and we are going strong after almost two years. If you have a good feeling about it GO FOR IT! You need to agree that work is work and whatever outside of work stays that way. We still act like coworkers at work...even when we are having a fight.

Answer 7

Don't date someone that works in the same section as you, or the same branch. If things go bad, you will regret hooking up with them in the first place. If you work for a huge corporation, wait till one of you gets a transfer or promotion to another section, then go for it. If things go bad, you can avoid them and still do your job.

Answer 8

if things end badly then things will be tense, you need to weigh the pros and cons of having an office relationship.

is it really worth risking making your job unbearable if it doesn't work out?

Answer 9

That's the exact reason. Choose carefully.

Answer 10

Yeah, ever hear the expression don't sh!t where you eat? Well, don't.