my best friend is a girl i've known for twelve years (since we were four in summer camp). we can talk about anything and i even set her up with her boyfriend and theyve been going out for about three years. life has been great until this year (junior year in high school) when guys made fun of us when she was driving me to football practice....they think its weird to have a girl as a best friend.
its not like i go to sleep overs and hang out with her girl friends and shop and stuff. we both do things we like to do: paint ball, see movies, go to broadway shows...and be in broadway shows since we're theatre kids.
everyone yells out things now like "he's so gay" and crud. wtf??!!! im not gay (even though i dont see anything wrong with that...im not against it) but now i feel like me and friend, Dani just cant hang out anymore.
HELP??!!! wat should i do?! shes the only one that knows me better than i do and she tells the same. we're brother and sister only not....help??!!
2006-11-13 14:14:07 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let others get between you and Dani. What you two have is special. I know it's hard because the others tease you but did you ever stop and think they are probably jealous of what you have with Dani. If she is truly your best Friend you will hurt her terribly by shutting her out of hanging out with you. Friends don't hurt each other like that. Make sure you tell her what is going on with all of this so she knows you're in a weird spot and doesn't think you no longer care if you end up not seeing her as much. That would be bad if she thinks she did something to hurt you and that's why you are not hanging out anymore. I hope every thing works out for you.
2006-11-13 14:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you having a girl as a best friend and her being like a sister to you. The only thing wrong is with the jerks who seem to be jealous of the fact that you have such a good friend. I am willing to bet that the only people making fun of you are guys.
I am a guy and my three best friends are women that I have known for over 20 years now. They are like my sisters and we four have been through thick and thin together. Having women as good friends gives you such an insight into women in general which helps you when you are looking for a girlfriend.
The jerks who make fun are you are narrow-minded, immature people who probably think that women are only good for sex and the only reason to know a woman is to eventually to jump her bones. They could not relate with a woman on a platonic level because they cannot reach that first level of respect/friendship/equality with them that you have with your friend.
You and your friend should not worry about how others view your friendship -- those jerks will never know you as well or mean as much to you as your friend.
2006-11-13 14:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the d***as**s to F' Off.
My best friend is a guy we are so close he is more like a big brother than a best friend. I have met his gfs and he has met my bfs. When our families tick us off we talk to each other. He understands me more than any girl I know and he isn't gay. I understand him more than any guy he hangs out with and I'm not a lez.
Don't let them destroy you friendship with your best friend... people like to ridicule and destroy what they don't understand which is exactly what is happening to you. The people who say the crud things about you b/c you have a girl for a best friend can neither understand or appreciate your relationship with her.
My "bro" and I had similar problems when we were in high school (they used to say he was a "fassy" or a "sissy" which is not much different from calling him gay).Now we don't have that problem anymore we've left high school and most people left their immature attitudes behind. As for those who didn't we left them behind. :)
After over 15 years we are still best friends as a matter of fact I'm supposed to go see him in January and meet his gf. So excited b/c he's thinking of marrying her but he wants me to meet her first...
Sorry couldn't help gloating a bit.
Anyway, don't waste time thinking about what these people say. Hang out with your best friend.
2006-11-13 14:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what others think. Don't let them mess up what friendship you have. It is hard to come across a true friend. My motto has always been....
Cherish Your Friends For Where Would You Be Without Them?
I would say extremely lonely with out friend.
I am 38 and I have like 5 real close friends. I hardly ever get them all together and each has their own personalities. I love them and they love me. They are there for me. And Yes, one of them is a guy. He tells his girl friends that I am his close friend Dawn. He never dropped me as a friend cause of any girl he dated.
Cherish Your Friend!
ohh and right now I am daten his best friend. Been with his best friend for about a year now. One happy family so to speak.
2006-11-13 14:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to screw off! My best friend growing up was a guy! We had alot of fun together! He always watched out for me too! In fact most of my close friends were guys! There was to much drama with girls and I hated it! My daughter's best friend is a guy. There is nothing wrong with it! They are probably just a bunch of jealous jerks! Don't live your life around what other people think or say! Live however you are happiest!
P.S. I'm 31 and the guy that was my best friend growing up is still a good friend to me! Him and his wife to be exact! It didn't make him gay and it won't you either!
2006-11-13 14:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely no reason that those guys should make fun of you, other than that they're jealous. I have many 'boy friends' and i think that they make the best friends of all. I'm a popular girl, so all the guys are my friends, and that therefore leaves no one to make fun of them! but your situation is a bit different. don't listen to those jerks who think that a girls only use to a guy is for having sex. ppl of the opposite sex can actually be better friends then pp of the same sex. besides, think of how much easier it will be to get a girlfriend for you, while they are still moping around wishing they had a friend like yours!
2006-11-14 02:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. You only have 1 more year of high school to go. you can tough it out. just believe in what you like and dont care about what the others say about you. there is nothing wrong with a best friend thats a girl. =]
2006-11-13 14:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude... My best friend is a girl and if people can't respect that then they can kiss my ***. Its really quite simple. If they make fun of me then they aren't my friends and I ignore them or tell them to shut the ƒuck up. Though I've only had a few minor cases of that. Don't get into a heated arguement. If someone harrasses you about it then calmly, but rudely tell them to shut up, yawn then walk away at a rather slow pace, ignoring anything that they say. It works well.
Don't change yourself or your friends for other people's views, especially the stupid ones.
2006-11-13 14:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by red_of_the_lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you don't have to listen what others say about you and your best friend. Just treat those rumours as craps and continue to grow in your friendship. My best friend is a girl too and we treat each other as brother and sister. Don't listen to what others say because they don't know you or can't understand how valuable your friendship is. I had a hard time that my so-called 'friends' just kept calling her my girlfriend but we never cared about it. So I'd say why bother considering what others say? Just be yourselves and stay the same with her.
2006-11-13 14:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by kentfeo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth losing a friend like that cause people are saying stuff about you. Why would they call a boy who hangs out with a girl gay?
2006-11-13 14:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by kayle_rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋