I used to be a bad boy but now I've changed and become a perfect angel.. and i don't feel like myself?

Question

I feel hella fake and ive lost all respect from my old crew. ive stopped hanging out with people and got really depressed. Now all i think about is college degrees, church, and scholarships, helping kids and being perfect. I know those are all good things but that doesnt feel like me im losing my mind cus now i feel like a loner and my little brother and sister dont even respect me anymore. My parents keep pressuring me to stay in school get a job, do voluteer work, dont smoke, dont drink, buy your own car, move out of the house, be independant, be responsible. i used to want to do these things but now im depressed you know? so all that stuff just seem like a steamroller of information pressing on my brain, so i get stressed out say **** it and go smoke a ciggarete. am i wrong for doing this? should i just say **** them all and run away and live alone somewhere in the woods? By the way im 24. advice please?

Should i feel bad for being 24 and going through all this?

i just got back from living on my own in baltimore maryland as a part time student with a full time job , my own car, rent, and paid my own bills. Its just that recently ive been stressed out.

Answer 1

It is hard to answer your question... i dont know all the details, but from the sound of it, your parents are just looking out for you and want the best for you, of course that comes with stayn n school & get an education, learn responsibility etc,... i agree with the smoking too. i am not one talk down on people who smoke I just tell them that I saw my father suffer so much from smoking and it was too late for to turn back.. he always wished he could...
you know you have to take care of yourself no one else will yes you have friends but they wont always be there... you have family their support is there, but you pave your own road, do what is best for you...you have enjoy life to the fullest and the only way is to care of yourself.... you are important. and it doesnt hurt to volunteer. but if you dont feel like doing it then you shouldn't. maybe later on you will...
good luck

Answer 2

Well, I'm a senior in high school and I think you should stay in school and do something more productive in life. I used to be in a depression where I want to hang out with the kids who smoke and do drugs, but then when I think it all over, I will have no future if I join them. I hope you feel the same too. Be a useful person and try to do well in school and get a college degree. Your future will be much brighter and you won't feel any regret.

Answer 3

well .. its hard for people to change, I know that much. Look at it this way, you have had this one bad bravor for so long its going to feel weird to change. Personally, i believe you can be good and have a little fun. Like ... Go to some clubs, you dont have to have a drink to have fun, or go to a theme park or something... just dont stress out about all that stuff at once, baby steps you know. If you stress, you'll be bald before you hit 26. Take one thing at a time and go at your own pace. I'm sure everything will fall into place.

i wish you the best of luck ^_^

Answer 4

Why did you stop being your self and who told you, you had to do that? You cant change your identity like that, especially at that age. Go back to the way you were, what made you happy. But just know that at 24 you gotta live up to a lot of responsibilty. Be the "bad boy" you were but dont act like some teenager. Who gives a **** about what anyone says, you be the way you want to be if thats what makes you happy.

Answer 5

I think right now you have alot on your shoulders. You are feeling to much pressure. You need to take some time out and go visit some public places like the park or go to some type of public actions. Mingle with others. You won't feel so alone for one and that will give you time to not stress out over all that you want to accomplish. Relax~Then you will be able to see things clearer.
Good Luck~

Answer 6

hey, no one is an angel. it is ok to go and vent (go smoke a cigarette). right know it may seem that no one respects you but if you look at it do you want the respect of the world over self respect and responsibility. you will see the sacrifice that you are making now will benefit you and your younger siblings down the road. you may think that you are unreal to yourself but in all actuality you are just starting to mature and realize that there is more to life. you are starting a little late but you are on your way.

Answer 7

Well sounds like you have a terminal case of growing up and you are beginning to think like a responsible adult.

Hard to believe I know but you are actually better off in the long run.
You are going to actually amount to something.

Good for you. Just keep on keeping on.

Answer 8

You need to do some growing up. 24 year olds don't run away. They move out of the house. Once you're out, you set your own rules and do what you want. Until then, quit whining.

Answer 9

You're an adult, it's time you started acting like one. OF COURSE your parents want you to get a job become responsible because THEY shouldn't BE responsible for you any longer. If you were MY son I would have shown you the door a very long time ago.

Answer 10

Well, you are doing good for yourself...KEEP IT UP.....i use to be a big drinker and the day i found out i was pregnant...i sobered up...i didnt drink during pregnancy.....after baby was born i wanted to go out and party...NOT WANTING TO SOBER UP..but my son is 18 months old..i have yet to have a drink...i miss myself..i still want to go out to a club....i guess i am saying i miss myself...but its worth it....get on doing what you are doing...they ain't real friends if they gonna ditch on u like that....anyways i have no idea where i am going wityh this....i just buried my brother a few days ago...trying to cope with that and getting online trying to clear my mind....but it all i think about.,...

best wishes.....