I don't want to judge ppl but like I am kind of freaked out by AIDS and now someone I know has cancer I don't really want to catch it or be around them. IS that bad? It just freaks me out!
2006-11-13 14:05:09 · 19 answers · asked by MikeyNY 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
DEAR MIKEY,
Please don't back away from your family friend,because of cancer. you can not get it that way.your family friend,needs all the support he or she can get.
I just lost my husband on FEB 10, 06 TO CANCER.
He needed every one around to keep him strong, the DR gave him 9 months to live, but he lived 13 mo, with out love and support from everyone, they would give up.Yes it is very sad and hard to watch them suffer, but they need our love and support.
so please try to find it in your heart to be there for your family friend. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS
2006-11-13 15:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not bad, just uninformed. You cannot catch cancer by being around a family member. This is the time they need you most. Put all your fears aside, and be there for this person. I'm sure you are not as freaked out as the member of your family that is sick. You might bring some mental support to this person that makes a difference in his healing. Don't be afraid, you will not catch anything but the love and joy of helping someone in need.
2006-11-13 14:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by june clever 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In short, yes. You are backing away from a friend when, in all probablity, they need your support the most.
Is the issue "catching it" or is it "being around them"? In terms of cancer, you cannot catch it. Period.
In terms of HIV, it can be caught but only in very limited ways. Provided you do not deal with their blood or other bodily fluids, there is no chance of cathing HIV (the virus that causes AIDS). As it turns out, HIV is a fairly fragile virus. For example, if you spread HIV infected blood on your hand you could not contract HIV unless you also had a cut or open sore on your hand.
That said, I am infering that you generally don't feel comfortable being around people with a serous illness (neither is always fatal -- many cancers are cured and HIV can be well managed for many years). Ideally, you are able to get past this. It will help your friends and allow you to feel better about yourself for doing the right thing.
2006-11-13 17:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by bonairetrip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings. I went through this with my mother. It completely freaked me out. It does not mean anything is wrong with you, you are just scared and cancer is a scary thing. I would suggest not losing this friend. He/she may not have long to live and as scary as that sounds, think of how you would feel if you lost this person and you let them think that you didn't care. You could mabey try talking to this person and telling them your feelings. Also, you CANNOT catch cancer by any means, so no need to be worried about that. Good Luck
2006-11-13 16:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by hugs.girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well cancer is when your cells malfunction and the mutated cells multiply. I understand why you would be a little freaked out because your friend may become noticeably sick but try to realize that right now is when the person needs love and support more than ever. Cancer is not contagious at all so don't be afraid to touch your friend or be around him/her. I know exactly what you are going through, trust me..
2006-11-13 14:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you can't "catch" cancer so you don't have to worry about being around your friend. Secondly, are you backing away because you feel it will make it easier for you if your friend dies? You must really think hard and long about that. My uncle died from cancer 2 years ago and the biggest hurt my uncle felt wasn't from the cancer even though he was in much pain. It was from his "friends" who never called anymore, never asked how he was doing, never bothered to treat him as they did before his diagnosis. If you want to be a true friend then be just that - a friend. Your friend will need some support and someone to treat them as a regular individual. If you think backing away will be easier on you - it will be easier only if you aren't really a true friend because a true friend will feel the loss regardless. I'm sorry for your friend - I pray the cancer can be beaten!
2006-11-13 14:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by simpleguy341 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't catch cancer!! This person needs a lot of love and support around them at the moment. If you don't feel you can be of any help at all, then maybe you are best to stay away.
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2006-11-13 14:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad you are. Both my parents passed away from cancer. They did not catch it because you don't catch cancer. You back away from your friend... then you were no friend in the first place. He does not need a friend like you, Selfish to think only of yourself. Hopefully someday you will mature and see your migivings.
2006-11-13 15:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is educate yourself about cancer. No, you cannot catch it. There is a lot of good medical information on the internet.
This person needs your support. You can't help him or her by being "freaked out" when you don't need to be.
2006-11-13 14:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cancer is not something you can just contract by drinking after them or touching them at all. I have cancer and I am just 19 and if I was your friend I would hope you wouldnt look down on me because of it. I am also on the other side of your story so maybe someone else can help you out. But just consider how this would make your friend feel.
2006-11-13 14:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by blondbeauty1987 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, cancer is NOT contagious nor is it the cancer patient's fault (usually). To back away some and be scared some is natural, but the patient needs support. It's a hard balance, but if you do your best and tell him/her how you feel rather than just complete abandonment, that might be the best you can do.
2006-11-13 19:30:29 · answer #11 · answered by turdl38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋