Whats up, I am a 25 year old college graduate. I dated my X for two years, and she cheated on me. We tried to work things out, but I ended up getting even ten fold then breaking up with her. We have been apart for almost two years, but never really stopped sleeping with each other. We talk about a future together, but i am not really even sure I want to be with her. I love her, but i think i just wanted her back because she started dating another guy. has anyone else been through this? To be honest, I am a pretty attractive guy, have a decent career going for myself, all my friends have always told me I can do better, but for some reason whenever i find a girl i really like, I end up not going after her, because I know i can still get with my X. What should I do. Sorry for writting a book. :-)
2006-11-13 13:58:24 · 13 answers · asked by ucfmanic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop sleeping with her; if there is still substance with your X after that, maybe she has something in her personality that you want. But honestly, this sounds like a relationship of convenience. You have to decide what kind of person in your life you deserve and you'll figure it out.
2006-11-13 14:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by np1 kenobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you need to take a step back and take a look at things. Do you want to be with some one which you have had such a messy past with? You said you love her not that you are in love with her. And you always want what you can't have. Take time out to spend with your mates and socialize, if your as confident as you sound about your self you will have no problems finding better.
2006-11-13 22:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your using your ex as some kinda safety net. You might also have some kinda self esteem issues that you need to fix. I broke up and got back with my ex tons of times. Ultimately we went our sepreate ways and it was the best move I ever did. You will meet someone way better and way hotter. Stop living in the past and live in the now. Move on!
2006-11-13 22:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Hal Jordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to ask what your looks are but then you mentioned you are a good looking person. My guess is though you may be a person who is fearful of the unknown, and wondering if someone new will like you as much as you like them, will you click, will it be ok ext may be harder for you to deal with. You know where you stand with this girl and though the relationship is not one you intend to keep its the comfort of knowing you have a thing to go to if and when you want to. The fact you think you only started back up with her could be because you are scared if she moves on you wil also have to, thus removing your comfort fall back on.
2006-11-13 22:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by SickDawgs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep going back to your ex because you know she'll accept you with open arms - there's no chance of rejection.
But as soon as you become interested in another girl, your first thought is probably 'What if she doesn't like me and I get turned down.'
So rather than going through that, you just go back to your ex.
If you're not sure that you want to be with her, then you probably shouldn't be.
This is your grand opportunity to cut things off from your ex and find someone else who can make you happier.
2006-11-13 22:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a comfort thing you guys have. You're used to her being around and it feels weird being with someone else. If you know deep down she's not the one for you, move on. On the other hand, be with her and quit all these mind games cuz you should be more mature than that.
2006-11-13 22:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO SEARCH YOUR HEART AND DECIDE WHO U WANT TO BE WITH. EVEN THOUGH YOU LOVE YOUR EX, MAYBE BEING WITH HER ISNT WHAT YOU NEED. JUST BECAUSE SHE CHEATED ON YOU DIDNT MEAN U HAD TO "GET HER BACK TEN FOLD" TWO WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT. TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-13 22:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on or you are going to wind up marrying this woman and living to regret, oh and also contributing halve of whatever wealth you obtain in the meantime.
Trust me, I have been there.
2006-11-13 22:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you want to admit it or not, you are still in love with your ex. If you didn't love her, you wouldn't keep going back, you would move on with your life. It's time to decide what you really want, your ex in or out of your life.
2006-11-13 22:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU DON'T WANT A FUTURE WITH A CHEATER! FIND A NEW WOMAN IF YOU ARE AN ATTRACTIVE GUY AND WHEN YOU START SLEEPING WITH HER THEN MAYBE YOU CAN MOVE ON AND NOT WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOUR EX!
2006-11-13 22:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋