How can I make myself happy?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago and I am still not over it. I loved him more than anything in this world, but I guess he just didn't feel the same. He just recently got a new girlfriend and it kills me to think about them together and how he is not with me anymore. He said he cares about me and I will always mean something to him, but he doesn't want to get back together with me. Everyday is so terribly hard. I can't focus on my school work and it is my senior year and really important that I do so. He even sits next to me in one of my classes and lately I have been leaving school early just so I wont have to see him that period.
My parents just got a divorce recently as well and that makes things that much harder.
I have plenty of friends, but when I am with them I don't even have fun. Everything just feels like a waste of time to me.
All I really want is to be happy and not spend everyday crying over my ex boyfriend and ruining what I have going for me.

Answer 1

Hey be happy that you got out now and not later down the road when he got you knocked up and then leaves ya.

Answer 2

First things first. Get an exercise routine down that will rock babygirl....this is the first step to feeling better & stronger about yourself. You seem intelligent so you don't have anything to worry about, time heals all wounds....which is a cliche' of course, but know this: You will meet someone that will be better than him, and why? Because you see what attributes you liked and didn't like in him and you will find someone that is better. That's how life works, the older we become the better things are in life. Secondly....a hobby. Doing something that will help you interact with entirely NEW people is what you need... Shake it up a bit, join a yoga class, pilates class or a running group of older chicks.....they'll help you anyhow. Remember, the more you know, the less you need, so start educating yourself on the world around you because there are so many more interesting things than some boring, teenage boy. email me if you have any questions & good luck!!

Answer 3

Since there is so much going on, you may be experiencing clinical depression. You should talk to a counselor or your doctor. They may be able to help you. Breaking up is never easy, but avoiding the class you have with your ex will only cause you further problems and feed your depression. Buy a notebook and start writing down what you are feeling right now. Most great poems and songs are the result of living through a bad situation and dealing with heartache, and it will help put you in tune with your emotions. Lastly, even though you may not be having fun with them right now, get out with your friends as often as you can. Sitting at home dwelling on your failed relationship will keep you down, and who knows...you may meet someone else who makes you forget all about your ex. Beyond that, exercise and eating right will go a long way toward improving your emotional state.

Answer 4

It's perfectly natural and normal to be sad right now. A lot of things are not really going your way right now. But keep your chin up, things will change. Just keep things positive, realize that you have all these things going for you and use that as motivation to succeed. Sounds like you know perfectly well your situation and have a good head on your shoulders, you'll be fine. It seems like your boyfriend wasn't a jerk to you when you guys broke up, so just keep things friendly. You'll find someone else. If your still feeling upset, try and vent your frustration on something productive, such as music, piano, art, drawing, poetry, writing. Just remember to look on the bright side of things, your alive, you have lots of friends that probably care about you(talk to them about it). Even though your parents are getting a divorce, I'm sure they still both love you the same as ever. Best wishes to you and stay in school!

Answer 5

Focus on the positive GIRL! This is your senior year and you should be having a ball, not obsessing about some boy! There are other and way better guys out there! Don't give up, life will get better. I am sorry to hear about your parents and I am sure it is tough. The best thing to do is to surround yourself with your friends, tell them to keep you busy whether or no you want to be. You will then have no time to worry about things like that and you will feel better about yourself. Stay busy and enjoy your senior year because it only comes around once in your life. God bless you!!

Answer 6

Focus in on completing your school work and what comes after school is over. If you are a senior...college? If you do go to college, you will have tons of experiences to look forward to. New people...new opportunities....a new phase in life. And you will be away from your ex. It's hard right now because it is all in your face.

Try taking up some hobbies that make you focus on something else with you time instead of just sitting around thinking about your past.

Answer 7

This is your senior year!!! You need to focus on having a good time with your friends! Try to focus on doing at least 5 nice things a day for someone other than yourself. Thinking of others will take your mind off your own problems, and will help you feel better. I know it is hard to believe now, but you will look back someday and thank God that you did not stay with this boyfriend. Are you planning a senior trip. Having something to look forward to always helps too. Please focus on enjoying your last year of highschool and the great future that is ahead of you.

Answer 8

Ya I was so totaly there about a year ago, I even concidered hurting myself, but of course I wasn't that stupid, all I can tell you is that it does get easier, Im actualy involved with someone even more wounderful than my ex, but it took a lot of time and I eventualy learned to not think about him as my ex lover but as my friend. You'll get there, just keep your chin up and take a time out when it starts to hurt a little more. Just keep telling your self the pain will eventualy leave and just be a dull ache. Well I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 9

You will never find happiness out there anywhere, be it with your boyfriend or whatever. All happiness originates within, inside of yourself.

The Chinese practice what is called the discipline of indifference. In that you have the same feeling for happiness as you do for sorrow. The same for cold as for warmth, the same for love as for hate. In practicing the above, one allows nothing or no person to cause you disharmony within.

People become trigger response oriented, in that when they see a rain cloud, they become sad, when they hear a certain song, they cry, and in your case, when you see a certain person, you become very dispondent and unhappy.

One should not allow anyone or anything to take away from the beauty and balance you have within. When you close your eyes, there is nothing, when you hold your ears, there is no sound, and when you clear your mind and realize that all happiness comes from within, there is no pain or sorrow or suffering, or heart ache, or grief, or dispondence.

Practice closing your eyes, clearing your mind and feeling your body to be very tall, your feet extend into the earth, and are warm, your spine is straight and long, and your head extends up into the clouds, and feels cool and refreshing, and inside your heart, you feel love and contentment, and it is rightfully so as you are a child of the universe and you deserve to be in your natural state of happiness and bliss, and do not ever allow anyone or anything on this earth to distract or take away from that as it is rightfully yours

I am now using the passive forms of Chi Gung visualization in seeing you being surrounded by a cloud of brilliant pink, which is the color of love, and it will soon draw out all the hurt and sorrow and dispondent feelings that you are now feeling inside, and you are soon to be set free.

May the sun always shine warm on your shoulder, and may the grass always be green beneath your feet.

Your friend,

Darryl S.

Answer 10

With all the writing and yet your question is simple and so is the answer. It takes time! Right now it sucks but in time you’ll be happier and better off and know it. But there’s no magic cure or anything people can say. Just have to give it time.