It's kind of hard to be sexually attracted to somebody you find unattractive. And I kind of find sex to be a major part of being a couple...
2006-11-13 13:22:09 · 14 answers · asked by charleston chew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I used to think that people who said that were full of it. But, recently I have met people who really are not visually stimulated. Some people are not so much into sex, so they place more importance on personality and work ethic.
Myself, I agree with you 100%. Sex is very important and I have to find a guy attractive to have a relationship with him. It doesn't mean he is totally hot, and I have found that sometimes after getting to know a guy whom I found "average" initially, he becomes much better looking if he is funny, nice, and smart.
On my first date with my current boyfriend, I thought we would just be friends because though I found him nice looking, I did not find myself attracted to him. After hanging out with him as just friends for about a month, he really grew on me and now I find him irresistible! So, I guess the lesson I learned is to always give a date a few chances if you even find them remotely attractive.
2006-11-13 13:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In theory, looks really shouldn't matter. However, yes, many of us find it a very important aspect when looking for a partner. However, in the past I've found myself attracted to people I may have otherwise not found the most attractive had I not spent the time getting to know them on the internet first and I've found very attractive people to lose their attractiveness with their personality. And too, there's the fact that not everyone finds the same thing attractive (of course, there are attributes which hardly anyone would find attractive) and I've heard more than once from more than one source that most people are attracted to people on the same 'level of attractiveness' as themselves. Then there's the theory that people are attracted to strong healthy, symmetrical features as the best mate to pick (the whole biology thing and all that).
2006-11-13 13:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it's whats on the inside and the outside. I cant be with someone i am not physically attracted to. But on the other hand, if the person treats you like ****, it's not worth it no matter how good they look. And i bet everyone that says that has a fine *** man or is ugly themselves.
2006-11-13 13:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they mean is, you are supposed to be attracted to what they are inside. You can meet someone not so attractive physically, but then when you get to know them and realize that they have some really great qualities, that is what is supposed to be attractive.
But some people feel the need to be with someone physically attractive. Just so long as that isnt all your looking for........
2006-11-13 13:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical attractiveness is important, however, we are conditioned to find only a few characteristics attractive.
The more you like someone the more attractive they become. However, if you are only attracted to someone b/c of their looks they quickly lose attractiveness.
Peace.
2006-11-13 13:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they are wrong to say that looks are important and I agree it is very hard to be sexually attracted to someone you don't think is attractive enough. I say go with what you think is Right, you only have to answer to yourself.
2006-11-13 13:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks should and do matter...Because as human beings we are very visual creatures...
BUT
Beauty shouldn't be about what society says is attractive.
Its about what each INDIVIDUAL person finds attractive.
So don't feel about about wanting a partner YOU think is hot (afterall, maybe someone else wont think she is at all)...just make sure you're looking a lot deeper for substance too.
2006-11-13 13:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Shakira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you may miss the right one by looking outside instead of whats inside i went out with a man that was not much to look at but it was some of the best sex i had in a long time!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-13 13:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by taterchips755 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right....looks are important. i don't think i would be able to have sex with my husband if he looked like a creature from the black lagoon. but what looks good to you....may not be what looks good to someone else and visa versa. honestly....what my husband does.....turns me on better then how he looks. he's a bit of a butterball, but he has always been that way. but i love him and find him adorable.
2006-11-13 13:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the case,then you only want someone just for sex first,and hope that you fall in love second.
2006-11-13 13:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋