My sister was engaged and then he broke up with her as they were writing out there engagement party list then he flew off over sea's, this all happened a year ago.
In that time i was engaged had my enegagement party and am now planning my big wedding.
She then tell's me the other day that she is getting married just a couple of months before me!!!!!!
He is still over seas!!! she has no money and she lives at home still??!?!?
i am really pissed! she is younger but is the biggest attention seeker in the world!!
there wedding is so rushed it is going to be a garden party, but i don't understand why so close
2006-11-13 12:42:48 · 9 answers · asked by jasesez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sorry i forgot to mention she is 20.... i am 24
2006-11-13 12:52:57 · update #1
#1 she's an attention seeker
#2 she wants the financial help (if applicable) before you can get it all
I'm sorry girl; that sucks...if it really bothers you, can you possibly move your wedding to later? Otherwise, just try not to hate her guts and instead feel secretly smug that your wedding will be so much better than hers.
2006-11-13 21:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen situations like this destroy sisters - and you need to make sure it doesn't. So what if she gets married first? So what if it is close to you? I know one family with two girls. They have a lot of long distance family, and the both got engaged the same year. So, they decided to get married the same weekend: one on Friday, one on Saturday - so they could celebrate together and make it simpler for the family.
Now, I am not saying you shoudl get married together. I am saying you need to be the adult here. If you through a fit, or show in any way to others that you are upset - they will see it as jealously and will look down on you for it.
Get excited for your sister, plan your wedding together and enjoy the fact that the two of you get to do this together. Be there for her, celebrate with her, be the adult, and at your wedding, people will look at your with admiration and respect instead of snickering behind their napkins asobut how childish you behaved at the previous wedding.
In the end - be the adult, don;t let it effect you, and you come out on top:)
2006-11-13 13:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't let this bother you. The weddings are two months apart. I want to get married July 7 2007 and my cousin wanted the same day but i told her that i had picked that day already so she picked July 28 2007. Is only two weeks apart but im sure we are going to have a great time.Good Luck
2006-11-14 15:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that does suck! I had to push my wedding back because I am graduating soon and my parents insist on a graduation party...well its tacky to ask the same people to come to a party twice in such a short period. Hopefully she wont invite many people, and people at your wedding wont think its weird. Hope for the best...or the worst, Im sure it will all work out.
2006-11-13 13:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, a few months before your wedding isn't very close. Remember, you are entitled to a wedding DAY, not a wedding month, season, or year. Just relax and enjoy your own nuptials. Who knows, maybe they'll call it off again.
Remember that you also chose your wedding date. You could have gotten married sooner. And if it bothers you that much, move your wedding up to be before hers.
2006-11-13 15:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
listen honey don't be mad!you hold your head up so she's first...she may also be the first to divorce. and hey he could run again..who cares as long as it's not the same day your day is still your own-so smile and stop lettin devils steel your joy be happy for her and happier your man didn't run away the only way to spoil your day is if you ruin it. you only get one first anything right plant your feet on solid ground and plan your honeymoon.you got a house yet?stop sweating the small stuff GOD bless you and yours ok.come on smile!!!!!!!
2006-11-13 12:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by tink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be jealous. Everyone plans differently. Enjoy planning your wedding, and let her enjoy doing hers.
2006-11-13 22:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she just likes to be in the spotlight, maybe she is embarassed by what happened, don't worry, they can't have a wedding forever, after thier wedding, you have yours, after all, she can't have the wedding TWICE can she?
2006-11-13 12:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by calypsocaper 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Someone tried to do the same to me (my husband's sister). It didn't end up happening, that's all you can hope.
2006-11-13 12:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋