My niece just turned 3 & her parents have been divorced since she was 6 months old. She lives with her mom & sees her dad everyother weekend. She's a good kid but when she comes home from her dad's it's a nightmare. She talks back, throws fits, & won't listen. Her dad just filed for full custody & she stayed with him this weekend. She came home last night & was very quiet. Normally she's very active & talkitive. Today she got in trouble for fighting at day care which has never happened. Tonight she was told to go get a pullup & her pj's on & she lost it. She threw a fit & screamed for at least 30 minutes. Her mom tried to talk to her & she just cried. She finally went to get ready for bed I went in to help her & she didn't want to get dressed. I sat down on the floor & calmly asked her what was wrong she started crying again & told me that she didn't want her daddy. I asked her want she meant & she said she just wanted to live with her mom.
2006-11-13 12:34:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Her mom doesn't talk about the situation around her so her dad had to have said something about it. A couple of months ago we were sitting at the table eating and she started crying and said she didn't want to live with her dad. We thought it was odd but didn't really say anything about it. We think he's been talking to her about it and it's upsetting her. Any suggestions on what to do to help her deal with it? Her mom told her tonight not to worry about it cause she wasn't going anywhere and she calmed down and was fine. It's obvious though that it's bothering her and I just want suggestions on how to help her.
2006-11-13 12:38:23 · update #1
She needs to be in a counseling center. You need to file a motion with the courts to discuss what may be happening in the ex's home that can be causing the emotional aspect of the little girl... The counselor can help back this up. In most cases kids are open with trusting strangers. They also have ways to make sure a child is not being subjected to abuse.
Make sure the counselor is for pediatric ages.
If the behavior continues I would file an emergency order put in place, stopping visits with dad, until a hearing can be held.
Good Luck
2006-11-13 16:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start digging a whole lot deeper into why she didn't want to see her dad anymore.
The stress of the split might be part of it, but there is something far more there.
2006-11-13 20:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Daughtry-luver 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think maybe she should see a child psychologist...
2006-11-13 20:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋