i have been with this guy for over 4 years, always had proplems with his limeted way of looking at thing, but i wouldnt mind spending my life with him, the proplem is he says he cant not commet untill i change 1 or 2 of my point of views, what should i do? we broke up many times because of that, and we always get back running to each other and befor we know it we have faced the same dilema again, should i just tell him ok, i will change or should i let him go once and for all?
2006-11-13 12:28:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would never change the way i look for a guy
2006-11-13 12:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if this has been an on going conflict and neither one of you have changed.....you guys probably won't change just for the sake of marriage.
I would let him go...you can say you've changed your mind but you will only harbor resentment eventually. You can't change people....you just have to decide if their faults are something you are willing to live with or not. If you can live with the faults..then its a go----if you can't live with the faults then sounds like its time to move on to me!!
Good Luck...True Love doesn't mean you have to change....it just means yo will meet in the middle or agree to disagree!!
2006-11-13 12:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you really change how you feel about something??? can you just change yopur mind like that??? if you can and these things he wants you to feel the same way he does about aren't that important to you... he's more important to you then go for it... but if it's something you believe strongly in whick it sounds like because you've broken up over these differences i would say it's time to let go... you say you wouldn't "mind" spending the rest of your life with him but is it what you want more than anything do you want it so much your willing to give up your ideals and indiviualism??? it sounds to me like that would a no simply because you feel the need to ask the question... but i also don't know the whole story so i would say go with your heart what is more important??? him??? or your ideals and convictions???
2006-11-13 12:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not every change yourself or your thinking just because a boy or girl tells you to. You need to have your own set of opinions and beliefs. Then, you will find someone who shares those with you (without force). That will be the right person for you.
2006-11-13 12:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by marchwindhamm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what are those things that he wanted u to change. if that deals about ur personal life only, then i think u would change that. or the sake of ur relationship, for the sake of love u are having, and for the sake of ur invested time and feelings with each other. f u really loe him, u will willing to change and adapt for him. but of course, explain to him elaborately how u would feel about it and ask for his support to help cope with that change. work it out WITH HIM...in that way, u will understand each other more and the bond between u for sure will ever be as strong as it cud be! gudluck!
2006-11-13 12:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by liez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you change your points of views just for him you will regret it once your married. If you broke up because of this then you will be divorced because of you views. I didn't change for my husband and I'll be damned if I ever will. He knew what I was like before he married me and it's a take it or leave it situation. Obviously he took it! Good luck with this one....
2006-11-13 12:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone wants to spend their life with you, it takes loving unconditionally. So that should mean realizing that point of views will differ, if it bothers him that much I would say that you shouldn't marry because it effects you two right now! This has to be resolved now, can it really be that bad?(your point of view)
2006-11-13 12:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by livlovelaugh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you change your point of views for him, what else will he ask you to do down the road a few years, are you willing to give up your individuality for him?? I think you will eventually resent him very much if you do what he wants you to do,
2006-11-13 12:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he wouldn't want you to change. He's just a guy, sweetie. Don't change who you are for anyone.
2006-11-13 12:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by Tish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him go. one day ull find a guy that likes EVERYTHING about u so don't end up getting divores over ur looks and stupid things like that.
2006-11-13 12:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by gigglegeek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋