OK...I've been talking to this guy for a few days now online, and he's starting to get a little weird on me. I'm not sure if he's mentally disabled, or a stalker. (2 extremes I know, but that's what it boils down to.) He keeps asking me if I live on the street that I do and stuff like that. (We talk via email, and I know my last name shows on the emails I send.) He *seems* like a nice guy, but it's starting to weird me out a bit. Ok...alot. I want to be nice about it, but I don't like lying to people. Should I just kind of ignore him, and hope he gets the hint, or tell him there's someone else I'd like to start seeing? Any other ideas would help too. Thanks.
2006-11-13 12:23:37 · 35 answers · asked by Cheyenne 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No offense jaw, but I'm 26 years old...I can't use the parents excuse. Well, maybe I could...lol.
2006-11-13 12:33:09 · update #1
I just realized something...I have Time Warner's digital phone service and my phone number's not listed...He's getting my info off the net or something...
2006-11-13 12:35:20 · update #2
I did play it safe...to an extent. I have 2 main emails that I use, one here at yahoo, and a RoadRunner one. I created a hotmail account just for the guys I meet online. (From match or whatever anyway.)
2006-11-13 12:37:27 · update #3
hmm i guess he likes you but i could be wrong listen i met ppl online innnnnn person trust me this guy is weird i suggest u keep ur distance it could become a problem first he acts wierd from there phone numbers and then talk all night andddddddd surprise he wants to see u in person u don't know him that well guys lies just to talk to a girl just to see how far he could go.
2006-11-13 12:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by x_x_andre_x_x 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ignore him for a couple days, or when he emails you, just send back a brief, polite note but don't reveal ANYMORE personal info than you may already have. If you are a minor, you need to tell your parents about this. Otherwise, if he asks why you're not talking to him anymore, be honest and tell him you're not comfortable with this and that you'd like to slow way down. If he's a gentleman, he will understand. But if he keeps harassing you even after you tell him this, then he's stalking and you need to keep a record of every communication he sends you, so that you have evidence in case this gets worse. That way if you have to call the police, they'll have something to go on. Good luck and I hope this works out.
2006-11-13 12:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by peachy78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a stalker to me. He could easily look up your name online and find lots of information about you if he wants. The best way to protect yourself is by reducing the amount of information you give on your email account. If you use Yahoo!, click My Mail from the Yahoo Home Page. When your mailbox appears...click on "My Account" and modify your information. Try just using an initial for your last name. If you have a home phone and have not chosen to be unlisted in the phone book...then he could easily lookup your address. From there he could use public information to findout more about you. Be careful when meeting new people online. I would definitely stop responding to his emails if you feel he is a weirdo. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 12:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Shelby H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be honest. Tell him that you think he is a really nice guy, but you would rather keep some of those personal details to yourself. If he doesn't like it and keeps asking then tell him that you dont want to talk to him anymore and good bye. Yes he is being rude and very weird . If he keeps sending you stuff dont even read it just delete it. If that doesn't work send him an email saying mind your business.
2006-11-13 12:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by dearra08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told him the town you live in and he has your name, it is possible to find you. It's best to believe it when people tell you to be careful about sharing personal information over the web. Just tell him you have a lot to do and have been too busy to spend a lot of time on the computer, or tell him you met someone you are interested in and get a new email address and DON'T share personal info.
2006-11-13 12:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rich B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes Ignore see if the emails become more aggressive or dark. If so you may need to report the behavior to the local authorities. Learn how to use an alias on line with a separate email account.
2006-11-13 12:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u might have to lie-to make sure he dosn't know where u live et cetera tell him to stop emailing you and that u aren't going to tell him anything about where you live OR your last name-this way he will think he has the wrong last name. then jus don email him back anymore and ignore him and he will go away good luck hun get out of this situation asap he is probably a stalker-b careful
love
~Ally
2006-11-13 12:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by greenismylife.songismyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are getting weirded out. I am sure it is mostly because you are chatting via e-mail. People tend to say things they wouldn't say face to face on the internet and he may be doing just that. Just let him know that he is pushing it a little and that you want to be friends or whatever. He should understand.
2006-11-13 12:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by John Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been talking w/a nice man for over a month now and it is not weird, i would suggest blocking him. People can find out just about anything about you if they are willing to pay the price. Be careful.
2006-11-13 12:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by MiMi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's stalking you girl. The only way you can prove it if he shows up on your door step. If he does have a restraining order placed on him. He had no right to dig up your personal info and you already know he did because he admitted that he knows your address and other info about you. I hope for your sake hun that he's not some wakko that will hurt you?
2006-11-13 12:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋