I am ok with being friends with benefits, and I have this one guy friend who I hang out with for that. Now this guy seems to say something to me everyday through email whether it's hello or he just wanted to see how my day was going. I asked my girlfriend why does he send me an email every day and she said maybe because he is trying to be my friend because if you don't have the friends part then you end up looking like a hoe because all you will have is just the benefits part. I thought that was the way it was suppose to be since this is a new phase I am going through and really enjoy. I like the no strings attached that's why I never really said anything to him until it was time to hang out again. She said I need to stop taking a guys approach to this, and ask this guy if he would like to catch a movie or go out to eat or something so we can get a better feel for each other even if we pay for ourselves when we do go out. My question is, is that really what friends with benefits do?
2006-11-13 12:14:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a new phase for me because I was one of many women who felt like I could not sleep with a guy unless it was going to develop into something serious, but I don’t feel that way anymore, but I don’t want to come across as a hoe. I do enjoy his company when we are alone together, but I had never given us hanging out any thought I just make sure that I don‘t get attached, but does that mean he has thought about us hanging out other then sex if he keeps contacting me every day? And am I really taking the guys approach to this.
2006-11-13 12:15:07 · update #1
This is what I think. I think that friends with benefits is the greatest idea ever, if you can have it, but you must be able to do that without getting emotionally involved. Personally I like your approach to it, but there is not really anything wrong with him contacting you every day. I mean think about it. If you were not having sex and were only best friends you would not think twice about him doing it. It's just because you are having sex is why you are concerned about it. People make friends with benefits more complicated than what it really is. Let's break it down. All it is really is this... you have a friend that you like to hang out with, go to movies with, go out to eat with, whatever, and you both like sex so you spend time together, upon occasion, doing what you both enjoy doing without all the drama that comes with a bf/gf relationship. It's just that simple. I would love to have a friends with benefits relationship. I would be perfect at it.
2006-11-13 12:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by k-net 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think that you should not think about it so much. Dont stress over it because then u take it way 2 seriously, he may sense that , get turned off, and u may look like the 1 that wanted more than he was willing to offer. Don't just only talk 2 him when its time to hook up. It's a great thing that he emails you everyday, he's a nice guy it sounds like.
Maybe once in a while, you can suggesst u guys grab a bite or hang out... but dont over do it!
2006-11-13 12:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope even if there are no strings attached you are using precautions and also that you can trust him!!!
I think men and women can both view friends with benefits relationships the way you do, however there is no chance that someone won't fall for their friend.
It kind of sounds like that's what might be happenning here- you are enjoying the benefits, he probably wants to be more than friends.
2006-11-13 12:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you are really okay with just having casual sex? You don't say how old you are, and I hope you are in your late 20's, because otherwise, you are going to end up hurting yourself very deeply. Sex, contrary to how it is being displayed in the media, is not just a physical thing, its an emotional thing, and its what sets us apart from the animals. If you really think sex without a relationship is okay, I have to think that you suffer from extremely low self-esteem. Your problem with this guy calling you seems to be that he wants to see you as a human, not a sex vessel, and that interferes with your vision of yourself.
2006-11-13 12:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hanging out and really getting to know someone is preferable to having the "benefits." Sex in and of itself is highly over-rated unless it means something. It can only mean something if two people know and understand one another. You need to hang out and talk with him. You might be surprised how great that feels.
2006-11-13 12:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by marchwindhamm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
peers with advantages implies that he can move and get intercourse someplace else if he wishes and no longer consider responsible, doesnt ought to name if he dont wish, you dont ought to move on dates, and the dreaded aspect--he can stroll away at any time with no need to mention a phrase. Try asking him if he's going to compromise and date you rather of best being peers with advantages. Dating isnt a significant courting; you speak each couple days or so probably, can nonetheless do a laugh date matters, and there's a small quantity of dedication.
2016-09-01 12:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by fullington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls that have friends with benefits are HOES...you have no respect for your self...why don't you keep your legs closed and try finding a man that will like you for who you are are and not for if you PUT OUT!!!
So close the the legs down and go find QUALITY and not QUANTITY...
2006-11-14 06:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by joy ride 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants more than just the benefits. If he starts showing up unannounced you got yourself a certified stalker! You must have really put it on him girl! You have to be careful because not all men can handle it.
2006-11-13 12:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I had a friend like you! your every guys fantasy don't change a thing, your friend has a few hang ups or she's jealous. I don't see anything wrong with your approach. luv xx
2006-11-13 12:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by kennyboy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
their is nothing wrong with friends with benifits but most ppl start out as friends or "x"s so you should probably try to get 2 know him so it doesn't look like you're a whore and he's a player
2006-11-13 12:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by confussed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋