We left our home that was paid for to come live by my grown son and his children,his idea...We have been here 6 months,my son is wealthy,lot of rentals,we picked a mobil cause it was close to his family..He said rent free,and so we did..all this was his idea.Now he dropped a letter in our mail box,telling me that I expected him to take care of us and ask us to move that he did not owe us anything,which I have never ask him for anything.It cost us lot of money to move here,and both myself and husband are onSS...I am so hurt,I don,t think I will ever get over this,but i do plan to move back hm asap..What do you think of this?
2006-11-13 12:08:27 · 16 answers · asked by slickcut 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I cannot figure it out either.I do know he is mean to his wife and kids,and he has girl friend that he gives money to and drugs,but he has never been ugly to me before.I am so hut I just don,t want to talk to him,can,t quit crying
2006-11-13 13:00:21 · update #1
It's really awful to have a son like that. Go ahead...move back to where you came from . Don't let this son of yours disgrace you farther and give you more heartaches. You don't deserve to be treated that way. Prove to him that you don't need him to survive in your old age. Whatever he sow on you as his parents ...he will surely reap from his children someday. Cheer up! Life even without that son...is still worth living for.
2006-11-13 12:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by dimma59 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate the ungratefullness of those that were taken care of in their youth by their parents. Many people like us could only been as fortunate.
The best thing for you to do would probably work on moving out. Ideally this situation wopuld get least sticky as possible and fighting with him on this can only cause more hurt to you and yours.
Next step after that would be to work towards healing and forgiveness. I know this is hard; but, forgiveness is not for him. He could care less and from the sound of it will probably forget about you as soon as you leave. Forgiveness is for you. The longer you hold onto it the more it will eat you up. Cut ties at any rate.
2006-11-13 20:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry..Your son sounds very selfish. He asked you to move near him, and now he send you that letter asking you to leave..Well, you should WRITE HIM BACK. Tell him that you only moved there because he ASKED you to. Tell him that you spent a lot of money moving there..Tell him that you want to move back, but that it is only right for him to help you move since you can not afford it.
I am so sorry..Dont worry, when his kids go up--they will do the same thing to him.
Try not to think about this, because it is only negative. Try to do something that will take your mind off your son. Go out for dinner, listen to music, or maybe you should spend some time with your friends tonight. Good luck.
2006-11-13 20:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Victory 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son lied, you brought him into this world and look at the gratitude he is showing you and your husband. I would write him back a letter before you move and explain to him that it was his idea that you make all the moves that you did and at the end of your letter still tell him that you love him dearly no matter what because after all you are his mother and mothers never turn their backs on their children. Good luck and I hope your son changes his mind and apologizes.
2006-11-13 20:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your son is on drugs - you've answered your own question . If drugs are involved , he may not even remember what his offer to you really was .Does your son usually communicate important things by mail, to you ? First confirm that he really sent it . Someone else may be involved . Consider yourself lucky that all you have is hurt feelings . Some sons have been known to do a lot worse to their parents . With time , it will get easier to put this bad decision past you . Good luck . I wish you well .
2006-11-13 21:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down with just your son and ask him what is going on. Maybe his wife is unhappy with you being so close. Or maybe they feel you interfered with something, where or not it's true. Ask him to explain where he stands and why. If he still insists that you move tell me he will have to move you because you can't afford to. Remind him that you move at his request and if he wants you to leave he needs to give you a good reason. Remember to remind him you are still his parents and he need to respect that if nothing else. Good Luck
2006-11-13 20:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesnt make any sense. If your son loved you, he would do anything he could for you.
If I were rich and could afford it, I would do everything in my power for my older ailing parents. Its called unconditional love!
Did you throw him out on the street when he was young and couldnt financially survive without you??
How dare him! You are his parents, and you gave him LIFE!
Where would he be without you?? Give him a copy of this letter.
He should be absolutely ashamed of himself!!!!
I could understand if it has become a financial burden on him, but that doesnt sound like the case here.
Give me his phone number and let me give him an ear full!
2006-11-13 20:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by multipure417278 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Money is his top priority. He better be careful about that. Money is just a materialistic thing....it can be here today and gone tomorrow. If he should ever ask for financial help in the future, do not help him out. He can stand on his own 2 feet.
2006-11-13 20:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
this would be a good time to give that a** of a son a good smack even if he is grown up and has a family. You have raised him since he weighed 5 pounds, just don't talk to him after the slap.
2006-11-13 20:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that this happened. I think I would move back too if you don't like the atmosphere you live in.
2006-11-13 20:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by lee lee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋