my boyfriend told me today that he wants me to stay living with him. He told me a few months ago that he wanted me to move out. I was upset, but we decided we would just live apart and stay together as a couple. Huge step back! but its what he wanted so how could i fight it. So today I wanted a definate answer, am I staying or leaving cuz my new roomate needs an answer. He said i can stay. When we went to go lay down together, he said you don't seem that excited about staying here like I thought you would, but I think he might change his mind again when the lease ends in July. Should I just be happy for now and see what happens or be sceptical?
2006-11-13 11:54:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gee, what a guy! He kicks you out, he lets you stay to save himself the roommate problem, and has the nerve to get annoyed when you aren't thrilled? Let me guess- you're paying half of everything, doing most if not all of the housekeeping, and giving him sex. Yeah, it's a real compliment to be "allowed" to keep doing that for him. I'd move.
2006-11-13 12:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your stuff and bounce!
NOT living together is not a huge step back. It is the realization that "playing house" can have a guy treating you like a wife one second and then like his "buddy" the next. Which is why he can so easily tell you to "move out", because ultimately, dating or not, you are not married and there are no real strings attached in a man's head in MOST scenarios like this.
Consider that voice in the back of your head that you hear telling you to be uneasy and "skeptical" about all this, your inner spirit trying to forewarn you of what is probably to come.
Just food for thought...if in fact he really want you 2 to live together, he would be less concerned with your "reaction" and be reacting in a happy manner that you're back for himself. This almost sounds like he's doing you a favor!
Be smart about this Miss Lady...
2006-11-13 12:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure I don't think you should live with him.
That is a HUGE step.
And what happenes when you stay and he decides that he doesn't want you there anymore and you have no where to go?
It seems like a big pain in the *** that can be helped if you spend more time on your relationship.
2006-11-13 12:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Alex The Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's calling all the shots, of course you're not happy. Even if you think you're happy, I can't imagine why you would be. Something very similar happened with an ex-boyfriend and me, we kept breaking up and getting back together and breaking up again, about 4 times altogether. In the end, I became fond of saying, only 2 breakups mattered: the first, where he broke up with me (broke our engagement and moved out of the house we were sharing, embarrassing me in front of my family, breaking my children's hearts and costing me custody of one of them), and the last time.... when I finally ended it for good.
If you allow yourself to be at his beck and call--- imagine, he says you're ALLOWED to stay!--- you will eventually have no self respect left. In my case, I became less and less attracted to him. Thought I was becoming asexual, but in fact I was just coming to loathe him, very slowly, in spite of all his good qualities.
My opinion? You should go, now. Don't screw this new roommate, and don't let yourself be screwed (which at this point would be the same as screwing yourself). And you can stay with him as a BF if you want, but I don't have high hopes for the relationship. He needs to be in control. He will likely break his promises. I think you can do better.
2006-11-13 12:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a baby. First he is bored of your sight so he wants you to move out. But then you move out without a struggle and it's dealing a serious blow to his ego. So he wants you to act all happy and grateful for him mercifully letting you back, but you're not giving him that satisfaction. I'd say just move out and let him be the one who beg for you to come back.
Well, I change my mind. Just dump the loser already.
2006-11-13 11:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jason D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why let him dictate your life or determine what makes you happ?. Dump the loser and find a man who wants to be with you, not that does you a favor by not throwing you out in the street.
2006-11-13 11:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be happy for now and see what happens.
2006-11-13 11:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by Steph L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be skeptical..
Start looking for a new b/f..
2006-11-13 11:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋