im 25, unfortuately still living at home, they are doing anything in their power to try to keep me here and im trying to save up as much as i can to move out.They refuse to have my bf in the house just simply because they don't like him. In the past my bf did some things he shouldnt have, but nothing extreme. but now he has changed so much ,but because of how he used to be they really hate him. I have a feeling that he is going to be the one i will marry, i love him so much.He also has feelings for me.My parents are verbally abusive to me in general. I pay for everything except rent. I can't do anything a 25 year old should be able to do. I tried talking to my mom about him coming over and she just screamed at me saying she and my dad dosn't like him and there is nothing they can do to change their minds.Outside sources even tell me my parents are too strict. Mom won't go shopping or watch tv with me and said i wont get anything for christmas this year, all because im still dating him
2006-11-13 11:51:40 · 5 answers · asked by hersheybar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow your parents are being very selfish. It sounds like you've made up your mind about your boyfriend and leaving him his not an option. My advice is to move out asap. You're 25, they can't stop you. You're parents shouldn't hold that over your head...they are saying all that stuff to CONTROL you. Trust me, sounds like something my mother would have said to me when I lived at home. We get along a lot better now that I'm not living with her. I don't think you're parents hate you but they are not being fair.
This might sound out there but did you get your college degree yet? That might help you get a better job and be able to afford living on your own.
Anyways, I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you have to put up with that. Again, move out asap.
2006-11-13 11:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of tough love?
I'm sorry, but they don't hate you, they love you very much. They just really don't know how to handle the situation. Remember that they are used to running your life for you for the last 25 years, it's sort of hard to stop.
My suggestion? Keep saving to move, don't move before you have enough. Don't visit your boyfriend at your home, go elsewhere to visit. Don't mention him to your parents if it really bothers them.
If this boy is truly the one for you, then a wait of 6 months or a year in order to be together is just a drop in the bucket. I promise this, I've been with my husband over 15 years. You can wait, and you will be a better, stronger person for it.
2006-11-13 12:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to find a place even if you have to have a room mate. You have to get out from under your parents thumb before they drive you to the loonie bin. Your friends are right they are too strict and they treat you like a someone under the age of 10. Your 25 and they don't really respect you, so maybe if you leave your parents home they will probably think twice about the situation? Good luck finding a room mate or even your own place.
2006-11-13 12:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez hon, i'm surprised you're even though to your feet from the completed stress! undesirable mom, she easily has a heavy load to undergo even though divorcing dad sounds only like the great determination she ever made, to your finished sakes. She married for the incorrect reson, now she demands to look to the long-term with out guy or woman in it for awhile. she would be able to do it. mom demands to get out and meet distinctive women folk who've long long previous by ability of similiar tragedies. consistent with hazard even a help company wherein she would be able to vent. issues sound like they are going properly for you at very final. attempt to not stay on the previous costly. there isn't something you will do anymore to distinction it. SMILE greater and inspect the entertainment of your life as an adventure.
2016-10-22 01:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally your old enough to make your own decisions. get out!!! your 25 flippin years old. get your own apt. or live with him. dont let your parents get to you. when you were 18 you were on your own. who cares what they say. if you dont act now and i mean NOW you could be living with your parents until your mid 40's if not later and never have a life of your own or with the person that you love
2006-11-13 11:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by shelby p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋