I know that my teenage daughter (15) is masterbating should I allow it? Or should I say something to her and ask her to stop. But atleast she is nothaving sex (that I know of.)
2006-11-13 11:46:25 · 15 answers · asked by Parent_of_teens 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
is masterbating bad?
2006-11-13 11:50:31 · update #1
I don't have a religion (FYI)
2006-11-13 11:56:53 · update #2
As long as she isn't masturbating you don't worry about it. Your on here asking the world what if she found out? How would the both of you feel then! Didn't you ever masturbate? Teenagers masturbate its human nature. If I were you I wouldn't say a single thing its bad enough what your doing here!!! I hope it stays on your conscience for the rest of your life!
2006-11-13 12:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by The Truth 2.0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you were younger did you masturbate? Did you think that it was bad?
She is getting to know her body. This is one of the best things women can do for themselves.
Do you ever talk about sex with her?
Maybe you should try to bring up some sort of conversation to find out what she is doing. She needs to know how to have safe sex if she is having it.. Try not to be angry with her and don't judge her. And don't be hard on your self if you find that she is having sex.. It happens and though we think that it is to young we can not control there every thought and move. Be supportive of her and her choices let her know that you care and want to help her make the best choices in life but also let her know that there are many consequences to her actions should she be doing this act and not educated on it.
Good Luck to you. I know my time is coming i have a nine year old and even at her very young age sex and drugs are very big subjects that are talked about all the time..
2006-11-13 20:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mellisa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly not, Im suprised she didn't start earlier, which she probably did, you just never caught her. If you have not already, sit her down and talk about sex with her. This means, that she finally found out what that does and how it feels, so sex isn't too far off if it hasn't already knocked on the door. Don't scare her, and let her know it's ok, because it is. They have girls as young as 6yrs old beginning to do that. It's healthy, and normal. It's fine. Talk to her, and find out if she's having sex, it's possible she'll lie to you if she feels threatened, so assure her you won't be mad, but don't lie to her either. DO NOT mention the masterbaition thing, that will just embarass her even more. Just play it cool, and be the good parent every kid wants, and she'll be more open and honest with you if she's a good kid. GOOD LUCK!! XOXO
2006-11-13 20:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Trixie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her to it. It's her body, and she is perfecty entitled to touch it in any way that she finds comfortable. Masturbation is totally healthy, and will help her to explore, and find out about, herself - most people, whether teenage or adult, indulge in a little self pleasure sometimes. The fact that she is masturbating shows that she is comfortable with her own body, and is maturing healthily and learning about the most intimate parts of herself. It will not affect her in any negative way, and she will develop into a perfectly rounded, secure human being. There is no need to make her feel bad or ashamed about what she is doing by asking her to stop, because she's not doing anything wrong. I am sure most people here were exploring themselves long before the age of fifteen, and it never did them any harm. Please don't humiliate or upset her over something which is in fact totally acceptable.
2006-11-17 10:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jethro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should examine how you feel about masturbation before you have an incredibly awkward conversation with an incredibly embarrassed fifteen year old. Make sure you are not treating a female masturbating differently than a male doing the same thing. For some reason, it is perfectly acceptable for boys to masturbate, but not girls. Be prepared, if you tell her to stop, to explain why you think it's wrong.
2006-11-13 19:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I myself am a teen and if my mom confronted me about masturbation, I would feel awkward to the extreme. Maybe you should ease up about it, and if you know she isn't having sex, that's a good thing. At least it's only masturbation. I guess if you really feel the need to talk to her, then you should. It may help the both of you, and you might better understand why she's masturbating.
:) hope this helps.
2006-11-13 19:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Janessa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question masturbating is not bad. What could be bad about it?
It is completely normal for young boys and girls to explore their bodies and sexuality, it is part of growing up. They also need to do this on their own so don't say anything to her and don't try and stop her
2006-11-13 20:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by CaTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't stop her from doing something, and only give her the protection, to let her know that it isn't because you don't trust her, you just want her to be safe..and talk to her about sex, and how to prevent pregnancy, by putting her on birth control.. it is NOT a reason to have sex...but don't try to stop her, its better than her going out and having sex.
2006-11-15 23:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by babyatgradys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started around your daughters age would of just died if mom talked to me about it. This is a natural part of life.
2006-11-15 11:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by sabrina_765432 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, do not say anything to her you will most likely embarrass her and probably yourself. So I wouldn't say anything to her just let her do it. It's perfectly normal. Just be glad that she isn't having sex.
2006-11-13 19:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by brittneyn127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋