How can I get my sons (ages 15, 7, and 4) to get along?

Question

They fight over everything, video games, chores, clothes, toys, ect.....

Answer 1

you really cant stop them its part of nature

Answer 2

ok. first, i fight over everything with my little brother. here are some pointers. video games? not a problem. if they have or want the new releases that are expensive, have them take turns. if they all have equal amounts of play time, they should have less problems with the games. chores? have them do the chores together. if they do seperate chores, their jugdement might take them to "my chore is harder. thats no fair." ive been there before. clothes? ask them what they want. limit them to the quality and the quantity. toys? well, the 15 year old should be no problem. but if the others want the same toy ask them," do you want THAT toy or another toy that can be better." no toy is alike. try to get them toys like legos so that they share and actually maybe build something together.

Answer 3

if your son is 15 and is still being treated the same way as his 7 and 4 yr old brothers then he is going to act like them. let him grow up a little talk to him and set up a merit system. ie. if you don't fight with jimmy and tommy or w/e then you can go out fri, have extra computer time ect. as for the 7 year old make a chore chart and label his belonging and explain to him those are his and the others have to respect his wishes not to touch them but if he shares then he'll make mommy happy and he'll be rewarded enforce this by saying something like jimmy it was so nice of you to share with tommy today. also explain about sharing finally the 4 year old. right now explain the value of sharing and getting along and also leaving timmy and jimmy along sometimes. encourage group activities or let the oldest set boundaries about when he wants to be around the younger ones. finally set up a firm discipline system with equal punishment for all three spanking grounding timeouts privilege losses ect.

Answer 4

set rules and bonders for your kids......make sure each child gets a fair amount of time playing the game: 1 child can't play for an hour as the others only play for 15 minsutes, make sure it is equal........ if all else fails give them a warning and if it doesn't work give them something called a time out or maybe even, if they are fighting (ie. punching, kicking) change there amount of time on the game.......also spent time with each one of them. the 15 year old might feel all sad inside maybe because your taking care of the 7 and 4 year old or vis-versa.....remember the 15 year old has to be a model to his younger brothers because they'll take upon what he's teaching or even what your teaching

Answer 5

I am happy to report that I do not have that problem with my 2 kids. I have a zero tolerance policy for it. I made the rule that if they argue, they are both grounded or they get standards or added chores...and I don't care who started it...I'm the one who is going to finish it. My kids are not allowed to say disrespectful things to each other either. The word "stupid" might as well be the "f" word in my house, along with "shut up". My kids don't hit each other either. They both get punished.

I'm a tough mom, but I feel if respect for each other isn't in the home, it certainly can't be outside the home.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Thats the million dollar question.All I can tell u is if there isn't a consequence of their actions about not getting alone and fighting then there will be no change. You need to put them in there room or ground them if they start something.Plus I have found out to ground both of them not the one that maybe started it.Because u never really know who started it.So ground,take away or whatever u do to how many aren't getting alone They will soon get the hint that if they can't get alone then all of them will get in trouble and then they will start to think before they start crap. It works but it takes awhile.Be consistant and don't give up.Good luck

Answer 7

That is a question you can't ask someone because your kids are so far apart in age they probably will always fight.
I am 24 my sisters are 19 and 16 I have never got along with them and I am just starting to now.

Answer 8

A cage match to the death should stop the arguing. Three go in and only one comes out.

A non lethal way I deal with it is to take a privilege away for each argument.

Answer 9

well u can take them to family counceling ...or u can do it he mexican way and beat them lol jk yea but thry to make them do actiivities togheter,the 15 year old probably feels like hes to cool to hang around their younger brothers scince hs going trhough puberty and so on, while the younger ones want to do exactly whatever the older kid does in this case the 15 year old and the 4 year old wants to do evrything the 7 year old does....so try to make time for themselves to get along and teach

Answer 10

Sibling rivalry is natural, unless it becomes dangerously physical. Look for the 'nobody can beat up my brother except me' mindset, and all will be well when they grow up.

Answer 11

get a game night play some games reward them for things they do well