there's a girl i really like who says she could like me when she gets to know me better. we go to school together and have been e-mailing back and forth and seem intelluctually compatiable. problem is that this girl is so pretty and i think she is out of my league. when we are physically together, i can't be cool bc her eyes are so pretty. so i said to her that i couldn't look at her bc she as too pretty. she just said that this may be a potential problem, so how to be cool around her so she can get to know me?
2006-11-13 11:30:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow...if someone said that to me I'd take it as a compliment. :-)
The problem with you not being able to look her in the eye is that that implies (1) you can't pay attention to her/aren't listening; (2) you are staring somewhere you shouldn't; and (3) you don't respect her enough--or you are too shy. All of those problems mean bad news for a future relationship. If you value that possible future, focus on looking her in the eye no matter what.
She wants you to look her in the eye and treat her as a person, not as an object--as a paragon of beauty. I'm not saying that is how you view her...but she wants to get to know you on equal footing. She wants to know that you value her opinions and are interested in what she's saying.
The bad thing is that, in your concentration, you could end up staring, and that will make her just as uncomfortable. Pick an eye and look straight into it; occasionally shift your gaze from one eye to the other. Stare at the bridge of her nose if you can't actually meet her eyes sometimes or if you need a break.
And don't keep thinking she's out of your league. If you start beating on your own self-esteem, that is not going to add to your confidence.
2006-11-13 11:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by The Clumsy Ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out for coffee. The more time you spend with her, the less scared of her you will be. You could get on a more comfortable level with her, by getting to know who she really is. Then you can see past her looks and like her for her personality.
2006-11-13 19:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i don't know what bc means but if you guys are always
with each-other and talking then maybe you could ask her out
but on the other hand maybe shes just using you
like take her tray up like being pussy whip-ed
but if shes not like that then maybe she just want to be friends.
i don't know i would have to see what she looks like and you to tell her what kind of person she is or what kind of person you are
it really depends on the personality, that's what it cones down to
so yeah.
2006-11-13 19:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by babiegum24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and have self-confidence. Boost your self-esteem and don't show off by doing things just to get attention. You never know because if you act like someone you are really not, you could embarrass yourself. Talk to her and be friendly. Take it slowly and easy.
2006-11-13 19:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright. the first thing you need to do is smile. a simple smile lets go of that shyness. think positive. if you think she is out of your leauge, then chances are, you will lose interest and go somewhere else. just LET her get to know you. tell her about yourself. if you have told her about how pretty she is, keep going. you will get on a roll. and then you will get close.
2006-11-13 19:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Dmaista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody is cool. everybody have weaknesses!
2006-11-13 19:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by max p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋