dumped for someone alot younger?

Question

thought we had a good relationship (7 years)till he dumped me (26) for and 18 year old is he (27) really thinking about this like he even lied about his age when he met her and i found that out cuz she got my number off his phone..ok and my friend at work got dumped after 3 years for someone younger than 18 why do people do this like replace a good,old thing with something shiny and new ? do people get tired of their relationships and they think someone newand younger would help make them better or is it all an immaturity thing they dont want or feel ready to grow up so they find someone younger so they dont have to grow up anytime soon? i heard this happen to a couple other people i know im probably just venting but i wanted to know other peoples opinions about it

Answer 1

At 26 you are far from old.Your X will find out that 18 is too young the kid games are just starting.Most men lose sight of whats important in life.He will feel good for a little while until he gets tired of the kid stuff.He will find out that 18 can't do all the things you can.I sure he will realize later that he made the biggest mistake of his life by letting you go and will want to come back to you.But please don't take him back he if he did it once he will do it again.You don't need that kind of instability in your life.Find an older man that will appreciate and respect you.Let the games begin.

Answer 2

Venting in this forum is a good thing. It is a safe place to do it.

I think the dumping for someone younger has to do with immaturity. In some cases of course it is truly because the couple have grown apart instead of together. Sometimes it is fear of commitment and sometimes people feel that somehow they are missing out on something.

I am 53 right now and married to my second husband, and I guess this is about my fourth really serious, long term relationship. This is the first one that has been really "right" and you can only recognize that after the fact. So, you will meet someone else. At 26 you may find you are looking for something totally different than you were looking for at 19.

Many of us have been dumped at one time or another, and often for someone younger. I am assuming you don't have children? That is a good thing. I had two little children to raise at the time. If there is any good way to look at it, try to be happy that you have found out what he is like now, rather than later. You will be happy again, even though it may not feel like it right now. And if you want to look at it this way, the best way to get back at someone who has dumped you is to move on, find someone much better than him, and be very happy!!

When you look back at this time of your life, most likely you will be able to remember the good things, and reflect that all things happen for a reason.

Take care of yourself. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

okay first off your better off with out him, at least you know now what he is capable of. The good news were not married, the bad news he just waisted 7 years of you life, don;t let him steal anymore time from you.

And guys are always looking for somthing new until they find out that they let that ONE get way. Then they really start to appreciate what they had, and often they go back to dating girls in thier age group. Every guy is different, and at one point in their lives theey finally grow up, sometimes it takes the right girl. Maybe it just was not ment to be.

Answer 4

There are so many possibilities it is difficult to place a definate finger on any one.

Perhaps the relationship in general was not going along as swimmingly for him as you thought it was? Perhaps his maturity level is not prepared for a woman and prefers girls? Perhaps the relationship got 'boring'.

I am just as confused by younger women who still find Sean Connery 'hot'. Until that sort of thing ends, or gets reversed, guys will continually prey on much younger women. or perhaps vise versa depending on the circumstances and people involved.

Answer 5

The culture in this world is going down hill. 7 years, what happened to getting married? The high divorce rate? That seems to be the mean (average), who wants to be average? I've been married 3 and a half years and I feel Im 10 times further than most of my unmarried friends, go figure.

Answer 6

I believe that most men have a fear of commitment. 7 years is a LONG time. And I'm sure there was talk of "forever" witch usually freaks them out. I think that older men like to date younger girls because it can't be serious... because they are too young, but as soon as it turns into something serious they run away. And also since he lied about his age it's another sign that he isn't serious about the relationship.

You will find someone who isn't afraid of forever. And you still have your whole life to find him. They are out there. Good luck.

Answer 7

Perhaps she just happened to be 18 and he was just not that into you any more. Do you have to stay with someone even if you're not interested in them any more? Yes, people do grow and lose interest in each other...male and female. It's cool to let someone go if they'd rather not be with you. If not, you're in for a very bad relationship...and lots of cheating and/or worse.

Let it go and move on.

Answer 8

Ms; vent away. Its is very simple. EGO. nothing more or less. You already knew this as you said he lied about his age to have a shot with her. May not help but, you will find someone who will be with you . You have every right to be mad but, it happens everyday so Ms put on your special outfit and go out and enjoy.
Good Luck.

Answer 9

My ex dumped me for A 18 year old when were 30. lol..Best thing that ever happened to me! They are now married and she acts older then him most of the time!...lol...She can deal with all his crap is the way I look at it. I wont ever have to again...

Answer 10

I don't understand your question, really. All I can say is that your going to have to move on. If he dumped you for someone a lot younger, then he is a pervert. Let's leave it at that.