i treat him very good!! i can cook very good and i keep a clean home. and still he chooses to cheat,why???????????????
2006-11-13 11:19:00 · 34 answers · asked by daddysgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because he's an immature dork who thinks you're his mommy. To a good man, you'd be considered a wonderful catch, the kind of woman who is a dream come true. But, I would suggest that you begin working on developing a better self-esteem. You are strong, intelligent, warm and much better than he deserves. You don't need this guy, or any guy at all unless it is under your terms. I say, send him packing because once he thinks he's gotten away with it, he will do it again ... and again, and again, until you put a stop to it.
2006-11-13 11:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cooking and cleaning don't equate to sexual satisfaction, hon. :)
Maybe this is a relational problem. Have you two talked about how to make sex fulfilling for both of you? For example: How often is enough? Are there things either of you really wants to try but the other won't consider? Have things become routine, and if so, how can they be spiced back up?
Of course, his philandering behavior may have absolutely nothing to do with you. Some guys will still cheat even though they have perfectly good partners, for a variety of reasons. It's *never* okay if he's lying to you, and he could easily bring home an STD if he's not careful!
If your boyfriend continues to cheat, I hope you'll eventually get to the point where you realize that you deserve - and can do - better. Best of luck.
2006-11-13 11:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a doormat and he's a jerk. here's a tip: men don't find doormats sexy. However weak passive women do attract jerks because they are the only ones who will put up with them.
You don't want to get a man by cooking and cleaning for them. Stop being so subservient and get yourself a backbone. Decide today you will not tolerate this treatment from anybody for any length of time. Get rid of him now, ignore any promises to change (he won't). Work on your confidence and self esteem and once you arn't such a pushover, you will find that you will start attracting different types of men. Start being more selective as to who you date. There are so many men out there, why waste time on one like this? I agree with a previous post, he is looking to upgrade you, once he finds someone he likes better he will leave you. You are too good for him, don't get confused and think it's the other way around.
2006-11-13 11:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by spacecat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is he doesn't appericate you. Guys are always nice when you first meet them because they are interest. Just like a salesman, as soon as you pay for your goods that is went you really know if they give a sh!t about you.
I've come across many guys like that, they treat their misses like sh!t; cheating, lying.... the saddest thing is most girls allow it to happen to them in a way they feel it is their own fault.
It becomes your own fault if you let yourself attach to him. A lot of times, girls are too scare to leave for reasons such as be lonely, threat, forgive...
remember, life is about choices. You must take accountibility for your choice.
Ask yourself if you are truly happy being with him, how he fool around.... then do something about it.
If you think you can change him, stop him cheating... best of luck! The odds are heavily againest you. How do I know? I'm a guy and have see many guy friends does the dirty to their misses, and most of them are proud of it.
Don't lose your hope, there are lots of good guys out there.
Best of luck!
2006-11-13 11:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Chew my Fat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
END IT!!! This guy isn't going to change. It's not you, it's him. Really. Move on. Some people continue to cheat no matter how great they've got it. You deserve better and you will NEVER change him.
2006-11-13 11:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by EV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow it. You treat people how to treat you.
The better question to ask is why you stay with someone who thinks so little of you? Snap out of it and move on. Life it too short to settle. You're worth more.
2006-11-13 11:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thats a loaded question first ask yourself how's your sex life is first....... most of the time thats what makes a guy cheat if he isn't getting it at home he goes out and gets it
2006-11-13 11:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have let him get away with it and he obviously doesn't appreciate or respect you. Stop living in a fantasy that he will change. Drop him, move on, and find a guy that will value, repect, and appreciate you. Good luck. Later....L.G.
2006-11-13 11:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by michael a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats your own mistake,you have to put your foot down.If your boy friend can only think with his dick then let him go, obviously your the one with some brains so play hard to get and make him want you, or just dump him.
2006-11-13 11:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Wu to the Tang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow him to. If you leave him he can't cheat on you, right. Have some self respect and drop kick the loser.
2006-11-13 11:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋