Will things get better? nothing seems to be good?

Question

I have been feeling incredibly depressed over the last four months. I split up with my gf, who i am still v. much in love with, and have started losing hair rapidly - i am 26. I moved country to be with this girl and now have feelings that i have to rebuild my life. I cry a lot in my apartment and can't seem to get my head right.
I worry that i will never get into a relationship again if i go bald. I have lost a lot of my confidence and everything in my life feels bleak... there is nothing good. I also despair at feeling so weak,and that i have no stength and nothing to give anyone.

Answer 1

We have all been though crap in our lives. Mine isn't going so well either right now. But all I can tell you is it won't be forever. I went through a rough Divorce a few years back, and that was pretty tough. But I did move on and better things came around. They will for you too. The hair loss thing sounds stress related and it may only be temporary. There are options and special products you can use as well. 26, you have many years ahead of you. Some will be great, some not so great.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you're feeling so bad. you've been through a lot in a very short amount of time. and you even moved to a different country to be close to a girl, and now you've split up. that would be hard for anyone. I know things must seem like they're never going to get better, but trust me, they will. please, don't stay in your apartment all the time, shutting yourself off from everyone else is not going to help. it will make things much worse. I know you probably don't feel like it, but get up and out of your apartment even if it's just to go for a walk, or grab something to eat. you need to be around people right now, even though you don't feel like it. and I know you're worried about your hair loss, but that could actually be caused by the stress you're under. and that means it will grow back when you get to feeling better.
and either way, your hair doesn't make you who you are.
you also need to stop worrying about relationships. you will find other girls to be friends with, date, and have serious relationships with. and I'm guessing you probably have a lot to give. you just don't think you do. I'm not saying that you should jump right into another relationship while you're still not over the last one, but now is a good time to get out and meet some new people, and make some new friends. you will be amazed at how much better you'll feel once you do.
you also mentioned losing your confidence, that's just something that happens sometimes when a break-up takes place. it will come back. but like I've said from the start, you have to get out of that apartment and start living again. you are still a young man, and you have so much ahead of you to look forward to.
I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 3

As the other girl said, your hair loss is most likely stress related. They say that when you lose hair due to an intense level of stress, it can regrow itself provided that you relieve yourself of whatever is causing you intense stress.
I understand how it feels to lose your hair at an early age. You begin to look and feel like an older guy at a young age, and it makes you feel uncomfortable. Supposedly there are multiple ways to regrow your hair, but I would consulte a holistic Dr. before attempting anything like this.
Alot of the miracle products on the market that promise to regrow your hair contain alot of chemical elements that probably wont grow your hair back, and on top of that, they could make your condition worse. In alot of cases, a "natural" route of doing things may not be the best bet. But in comparison to these chemically enriched products that promise hair growth, I highly recommend consulting and alternative Dr., and then proceeding to use an all natural method, thus limiting your exposure to potentially dangerous chemicals.
A western Dr.(American type Dr.), will recommend something like rogain or even hair transplant surgery. Stay away from the rogaine shampoo because its a drug, and your hair will fall out and possibly get worse than it was, as soon as you stop using this product.
I understand that physiological aspects of a persons life can actually contribute to a sense of mental unwellness. The stress around you definetly contributed most of your problem, but your hair problem has made things worse, I see. Work on your hair little by little if your really upset about it, and do it for you, not some chic.
You will get dates regardless of your hair issue, provided that you have confidence. And even without confidence, you can still get dates. I highly recommend reading "The Warrior Within". Its one of Bruce Lee's books, and is edited by John Little. He is and extremely inspirational human being, and you will enjoy the book alot. GOod luck.

Answer 4

Ok first off my fiance is loosing hair, he shaves his head now and I love him for him. If a girll judges you for your hair, she's not worht it.

Right now your vulnerable. Your alone in an area where you probably don't know alot of people. She was the only connection to people in the area, and your source of places to go and things to do. You need to get out and go places. You have a wonderful tool at your fingertips to help you find out things that are going on in the area. Check out galleries, and shows. Don't do the club scene. Relationships from there tend to have bad endings.

You need to get a few things set in your life first.

1) Be sure to have a good job so you can take care of yourself.
2) Be sure to have a place to live in an ok neighbourhood.
3) Give yourself time to heal from your breakup. Sometimes it can take up to 6 months or more for people to feel better.
4) When you ARE ready to commit to someone new, take your time.
5) Look in the right places. Think of what persionality you like and what sort of events or locations you would find her. I met my fiance in a computer store (I'm not telling you to go shopping for girls thouhg, our thign was purely by chance). Start in places you feel comfortable, that allow a social atmosphere.
6) lastly don't lose confidence in yourself. You need this to survive. You took a big chance moving to a strage place to be with someone. Make the best of it! It can be fun!

Answer 5

I'm sorry you're experiencing all these things. Of course you feel bad, your relationship with someone you love just ended. It takes "time" to get over a loss.

I think your hair loss is due to "stress", try not to "panic", it might make it worse. It will grow back.

I think you're "depressed" and most of us have been there at one time or another. Force yourself to get out if you have to, don't sit at home and "feel sorry for yourself". Hang out with friends, find things to do, keep busy.

You may not feel better tomorrow or next week, but you will feel better. Time makes it easier to deal with the hurt you are feeling. If you are unable to get over your depression and it begins to "take over your life", you may need to seek some "professional" help with it. It's nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed by.

I wish you well, good luck.

Answer 6

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