I'm in the 9th grade(freshman) and 14...bu tI've never "been with" a boy or gave a bj? (I don't plan to for a while either)..i've never had a boyfriend or been out with a guy. I think it's okay but I just want your opinion!
BTW...there's a guy in my class that wants me to give him a bj.....what should I do?I don't want to but I still kinda like him and he just sits in class and stares at me....
2006-11-13 11:05:26 · 29 answers · asked by .::country gurl in a 4X4::. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him hell no! Judging by what you write, he's not even a boyfriend. Tell him to freakin' blow himself! Being "inactive" is perfectly normal and commendable. Be proud of yourself and stick to your guns. That's your "diamond" between your legs, and you don't want the wrong person to dabble with it. You do not need to be active at your age. You won't be all used up at 18.
2006-11-13 11:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by lilacslooklovely 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the fact that you are 14 and have never had sex (oral or intercourse), is not only perfectly okay, it is totally normal and wonderful!! Legally, you shouldn't have sex at all until you're at least 16. And it's perfectly normal not to have a boyfriend or date until then, too. heck, I know people who were in their 20s before they did any of this stuff, and they are totally normal and happy. Everyone's different, and you just have to figure when YOU have reached the right time for YOU to do these things. No one else can make that decision for you.
Of course there's a guy who wants a bj... ALL guys want bjs whenever they can get it! There will ALWAYS be a guy wanting soemthing sexual from you - but that doesn't mean you have to give it to them! Even if you like him and want him to be your boyfriend, you do not have to do ANYTHING with him if you don't want to. If he likes you, he'll be okay with that; if he isn't okay with it, then he's immature and doesn't really care about you.
if you don't want to do it, then don't do it - simple as that. Refrain until YOU'RE ready - there are plenty of guys who will LOVE your integrity.
2006-11-13 19:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay if you've never 'been with' a guy. There's plenty of time for that later in life. For now, concentrate on school and activities. If you do get a boyfriend, that's great. But that doesn't make you any better or worse than you were before. If you kind of like that guy, get to know him before things get too serious. And don't do anything that you don't want to do just because he wants you to. It's kind of creepy that he sits in class and stares at you. You might want to reconsider this guy if he just stares at you. This could mean that he just likes the way you look, which is probably true. Don't let this guy take advantage of you!
2006-11-13 19:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mia C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it unless you guys are acutally really close and you know him well enough to trust him. Cause if you do give him a bj he could start rumors around the school ruining your reputation. And being 14 wihtout a bf ever dont even worry your still young you still have plenty of time, enjoy life while your single.. flirt all you want, just don't get caught up in a situation that you dont want to be in our later will regret. Good luck!
2006-11-13 19:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Alliecat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to know why you would want to give anyone a bj anyway. I think you would make a big mistake doing something like that with any boy especially one you just met, If a boy cares about you it want be around sex, How will you feel when you do that and he goes and tells everyone and still dont like you. If a boy really likes you he will wait i promise dont do something you may regret your whole life you sound like you may have a good head on your shoulders i hope you keep it there
2006-11-13 19:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by martha d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you just said you don't plan on it for a while. Don't let anything pressure you into doing anything. It is perfectly ok not to do anything like that. It is meant to be with someone special that you plan on being with, not just because you kinda like someone. Other than the physical side of "being with" or "giving a bj" you can get an STD from that as well.
2006-11-13 19:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give this guy a bj, what do you think that is going to get you but trouble?? Do you think he will have any respect for you??? Not a chance, he'll be laughing and bragging to his buddies and give you nothing but a reputation for being a slut. If you want any chance for a real relationship you have to have respect for yourself. Would you really have any if you did this? Just because your girlfriends do it doesn't make it right. And I will GUARANTEE that you will end up with the best guys. Peer pressure is real and it is something that you have to deal with but if you follow the crowd in this manner you have failed yourself.
2006-11-13 19:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by cosmo88_7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14 as well and a freshman in highschool and it's quite allright if you've never "been with" a boy or given them a *******. Anyways, you shouldn't give anybody a bj if you don't really like them...especially if you don't know them well. I mean going out with a guy should usually occur later on in our teenage years..but well I have gone out with people. Take your time..it isn't a race and nobodys making you do anything. Just don't put yourself in a position you would later regret.
And about that guy in your class...well, do what you think is best. In my opinion, I would like to know if he likes you. if you like him and he likes you, then go out a bit and see how it goes..Dont do it if you dont want to.
Fourteen is young..very young. so for all of you out there, don't get me wrong, I know it is young.
So please..dont do anything you'll regret.
2006-11-13 19:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by Emily D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your dilema in our oversexed society but first of all you are too young to get involved with someone at that level.
Even worse, a boy who would pressure you for a bj has absolutely no respect for you. He's been on the internet too much and is thinking of you as just another little hoe made for his pleasure.
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Tell the loser to get a life. You focus on what you want to do with your life.
2006-11-13 19:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by John v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont plan on doing that for a while than dont. Dont just give him a bj just cuz you kinda like him that would be really stupid. So save yourself for someone special.
2006-11-13 19:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by Valeska C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie a 15 year old boy plays on your emotions,heck,alot of guys do. If you don't feel right say no. you are you're own person. Just because he asks politely,or you like him doesn't mean you should give in.
Wait for the right guy,who deserves the honor of being a first of many things,and won't take advantage.
2006-11-13 19:08:44 · answer #11 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋