Am I too jealous?

Question

I am getting concerned that I am becoming too jealous of my girlfriend. I dont know why i act the way i do. I work over an hour away from where we live and her ex-husband lives and her ex boyfriend live within 5mins of her. She always tells me that she wouldn't do anything but i am always concerned that she is and i have no way of checking up on her. aside from this i get pretty concerned as she is always on the internet (almost all day every day) and she is good enough to hide them from me without me finding them. I hate not knowing what she is up to during the day. recently i found one of her hotmail accounts that she has kept heaps of love emails from her ex-husband, ex-boyfriend and other guys she met off the internet of close male friends. These were in their from over the past year except for the ones from her ex-husband which were put in their recently from her other account so i wouldnt find them. she said her solicitor told her to do it but i dont believe that.Am i overreactin

Answer 1

Yeah, you're way to jealous. If you're that concerned, just get another "local" girlfriend. And stop being so damn insecure. that's so not cool!

Answer 2

Are you over reacting? Yes.
Are you too jealous? Not the right word- Insecure is the correct one. No offense- Honestly. Jealous means mad or envious.

If the relationship makes you feel uneasy, unhappy, pre occupied or otherwise insecure in the way it is going, then their is a problem. In a secure healthy relationship- "checking up" on her actions is not needed or warranted in any fashion. If you have such serious doubts regarding her or you, then there is an underlying problem. Checking her emails or computer for her personal movement it a betrayal in your relationship. You are wrong! Trust is the problem.

If you believe in your heart that she is seeing other men besides you, via Internet or old ex's...then its time to call it quits.
Seriously, life is too short to be strung out like that.

Yet in most cases like this...its the partner that is the most concerned about the "cheating" one that is really the one "doing" the same thing and seeking to validate that behavior and con deem the other one for the same. Is this the case? Are you sure?

Answer 3

I just posted something similar about my boyfriend. Only I am on the receiving end altho he has not gone to the extent that you have. If you love her you need to trust that she loves you. It is not a nice feeling to be constantly questioned over your intentions, I am sure that she would be with someone else if she wanted to! Instead of worrying about what she is supposedly doing behind your back count on the way she makes you feel when you are together. If you cant see she loves you when you are together then maybe its time to let her go.

Answer 4

trust is one of the most important things in a relationship girls have a hard time of letting go of there past i believe it makes them feel more secure to know that they have been loved in the past and most women still have some feelings for past loves but she would not be in it with you if she did not want to if she is having a fling you would know and because she spends most of her time on the internet she most likely is not going out on you behind your back but if you want a way to keep track of her buy a simple program that tracks key strokes and you will be able to tell what all of her intrests are on the internet

Answer 5

you shouldn't be in a relationship until you get over this insecurity issue.

Answer 6

I don't think you're over-reacting, in your position I'd be suspicious too.

Answer 7

Doubting 'Thomas' will not suceed

Answer 8

yes

Answer 9

u r not overreacting. u r insecure

Answer 10

nosy