...okay to start out... this may sound conceited but i am 22 and a very good looking guy, very popular with woman, and everyone in general and have a great social life...i was with a girl for about a yr and a half and we broke up, and i got hurt pretty bad and she did alot of really awful things and i was depressed for awhile, well... since we broke up, anytime i go to have sex with someone i cant get it up, or if eventually ido get it up its like numb, and ive never had this problem, i was freaking out because i thought something was physically wrong, then i got back together with my ex for a couple weeks, and i was completly fine... we would have sex 3 or 4 times a day and it would be easy no thought, then we broke it off again for good, and since i have gone back to having the same problem, yet this time i am not depressed about her at all... im happy we are done, yet this is freaking me out? what do i do...? if i get viagra will i my anxiety go away?
2006-11-13 10:52:10 · 13 answers · asked by Seven11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, you don't need viagra.
take a break from sex, and go out with other women without any expectation of sex. Eventually, you will find the right one with whom you can reconnect and reawaken your sexuality.
Oh, and in the meantime, try not to jack off or watch pornography because those things will distort your perceptions of intimacy with a real woman under real-life circumstances.
2006-11-13 11:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon you just are used to her affectionately. Attatched you know. Guys dont think their emotions affect thier sex life but every once in a while in your life there is those chicks that can have that effect on you. Give it some time. Have you tried adding tequila to the equation?! Could help, you never know. Go out of town find a girl who you will never see again, and maybe that will sprout the little guy. No pun intended. I am serious though you need to do things that seem forbidden to get that mojo back. good luck hon'
2006-11-13 19:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by determined26a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Viagra is for a physical, medical problem. Physically you are just fine.
What you have is a psychological problem, so the solution likewise needs to be psychological.
Look in the phone book and call up a sex therapist. (any general shrink will help, but one who specializes in sex and relationships will be best) They will help you get to the source of your anxiety and work with you on ways to deal with it, work through the problem and put it to rest.
2006-11-13 19:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
viagra will not make your anxiety go away, I personally wouldn't try it. It just sounds as if your not confident, maybe it just the fact that your doing it with something different. Maybe take a little more time to build up to sex, it should help to calm you down before sex hopefully lowering your anxiety.
Gd Luck
2006-11-13 18:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mkoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't over her yet. Just be by yourself for awhile. When the time is right, you'll be back to 3 or 4 times a day, no problem.
2006-11-13 19:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling to help figure out your problem. At 22 you really ought not be depending on a drug.
2006-11-13 18:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mental frame of meeting new gal instead of the accustomed one is actig as a hindrant to your happy 'acts'.
so when you break ties do it from the heart,mind and soul too
to return to normalcy.Itma look difficult but not an impossibility
2006-11-13 18:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by R Purushotham Rao 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, the problem is in your head....the one above your shoulders. You need to learn how to disconnect your brain to have sex. You are in for a wild ride once you do!
2006-11-13 18:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple dude.
You were in love, your still in love. It's hard to physically connect wiht somone if you havent emotionally.
2006-11-13 18:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some time rest
travel east
go to china
or japan
2006-11-13 18:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋