We both love each other very much but she wants me to ask her parents for her in marriage. But not telling her parents that we both love each other but ask them for their daughter in marriage as if their daughter doesn't know who I am.
Is it accepted in society to go to a girl's parents and ask their daughter in marriage?
2006-11-13 10:47:46 · 21 answers · asked by Mr Business 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i think if you love this girl that should not be a problem that is what they use to do a long time ago but if it will make her happy you should do it ,she will love you for it and i think her parents would respect you alot more to
2006-11-13 10:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by martha d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking the parents is one of the best things you can do to prevent most problems with the parents. First they will feel like they have a say in a decision so big, and it will make you look better to show that you actually care about their opinion. Let them know that you love each other, and that you want their daughter. Try not to do it all at once though. Look for opportunities to let them know of your love first
2006-11-13 18:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should ask teir parents, but should also tell them that both of you know each other and you have understand her character. If you dont, how are you going to ensure the girls parents that you will care for her? What if the girls parents decide to look someone else without knowing that both of you in love. You should tell your girlfriend, that you are going to propose to her parents by telling both of you are in love. Built her confidence that the marriage proposal will work out till the martimony and both of you will have an enjoyable life.
2006-11-13 18:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking ones parents for their daughter's hand in marriage is the most courageous thing one can do.
But it does say volumes about ones person.
before you ask them you must first ask yourself.....
Can I afford to get married? Where do you both plan to live?
What kind of goals do I have (short term & Long term)?
Do I want kids? How many?
How do want to raise them?
Am i emotionally ready for marriage? Is she? can we both adapt to change well?
Just some of the questions I would think of first if you've answered all these, then I say Go for it!
2006-11-13 18:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by mark c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a bit stupid to me. What if her parents say no they don't approve, then what? Will she marry you anyway? If she will then what the hell is the point. I mean personally I wouldn't go that route. I would let her know that you guys can go to her parents together and tell them you are engaged. But asking them is rediculous. Getting a man to propose is hard enough these days. Why make him work even harder just to do it. Ask the women to marry you then you two should go announce it to your parents together. Regardless to what they say I'm sure you will get married anyway. You can't let your parents dictate and if yur adults you shouldn't. Make your own decisions and let others in on what the decisions were. End of story.
2006-11-13 18:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is much more uncommon these days, but still appreciated by the parents. It depends on the family. If she wants you to ask her parents then it must be important to the family. I would spend some time with the parents first and then ask for her hand in marriage. If they are out of town maybe spend the weekend with them. That way they get to know you before you ask. If you need some tips on how to ask maybe ask your parents or grandparents for some advice.
2006-11-13 18:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Glee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think asking her parents sends the message of "your daughter doesn't know who I am" but rather assures them that when their daughter takes your last name, the two of you will still be members of the family. It's a respect thing and I haven't heard of it being frowned upon. I know people who have done this and the bride loves that her soon to be fiancee is comfortable with her parents adn her parents love that he is so respectful. Happiness all around!
2006-11-13 19:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in America. It is out or respect, appropriate to tell the parents you are going to propose to their daughter. But only if the parents like you. If they don't like you, then I would just ask her and not worry about the parents.
2006-11-13 18:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that it's stupid when people say that you have to ask the brides parent's permission when you want to propose. This girl you love is a grown woman, and if she really loves you that much, then why the heck does it matter if her parents approve? She can make the decision of who she want's to be with on her own.
2006-11-13 18:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you both love each other then a normal propose would be better but if you feel more comfertable asking her parents then go ahead and if you really love this girl then don;t deny it. This is just my opinion but i hope this helps!! <33
2006-11-13 18:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day, that's how things were done. but now a days, i guess it depends on the family and their traditions. If your girlfriend and her parents would like you to ask for her hand in marriage, i guess i can't see why not. If you love, you could do this little task for her.
2006-11-13 18:52:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋