answer this if you brave enough?

Question

Are you brave enough to answer this?
what if this was your life...been 20 years old..living with two narrow minded people in their 50's...who dont allowed you to go anywhere..no friends they say this world is too bad u might get spoiled in it...not allowed to spend money..not allowed to buyclothes...not allowed to have bf/gf....if you go to school one of them cal u and ask u where are you how come not yet home?instead of calling on your cell phone..what would u do?can u answer this question ..been helpless with all responsibity you have that you cant move
i live with them because my parents are poor...i need education that why i am living with them as wel

Answer 1

Not really getting this, but I will try to answer anyway. You live with strangers or grandparents?? You need to either tell them to back off or take it. Why are they so involved in your life, do you pay them?? Your question is so open ended that it is hard to answer. I imagine you will get alot of knee jerk answers but you need to come out with more facts.

Answer 2

I am sure they only have your best interests at heart, but quite possibly a little over protective of you too. When all is said and done,they are more mature,and have experienced many of life's trials and tribulations that you are on the threshold of,possibly without the benefits of a good education that you are getting. I do not believe for one minute that it is narrow-mindedness on their part-they know what certain people/s in this world are capable of,they are trying to teach you the life skills they have learnt,because you don't know. If you truly want to break away from this situation,then do so-you are 20yrs old,and can continue your educational studies whilst working if this problem bugs you so much-so go out there and learn,but don't say they didn't warn you though!!

Answer 3

You can't teach old dog new tricks, and these people are clearly old fashioned. This is your chance to prepare yourself to break away from that chain. Start to save some money so that when you are finished being educated and you can make a life for yourself with that education - you have something that could help you get started - you can move out, atleast pay some of your rent for now and you wont need to depend on them for anything.

That is something hard to go through, especially at your age but if it's important for you to be educated then strug it out until that is over as hard as it seems. Start saving up from now, have some sort of socialization in school -an soon enough u'll get your chance to get away...

good luck with that!

Answer 4

the problem is the generation gap between you. i know you need to stay to continue your education but many ppl stand on their own two feet and hold a job down at the same time. maybe you could try talking to them. the world is a bad place they're right but you still need to find your own way in the world. your 20 for goodness sake and a adult. presuming you in the usa? can you not share somewhere to live so the expenses arent so high? i'm presuming since you cant spend money that you must have some saved? this does smack of mental abuse and if you was a young child would affect your social skills. but your not a young child and its time you stood up for yourself and made them understand how you feel. i do feel for you, it sounds horrible and you dont have a life at all and that isnt normal by anyones standards. stand up for yourself cos no one else will.

Answer 5

You need to tell your parents that you are 20 years old now and a adult your not a child anymore and don't like being treated like one, you realize that you live under their roof while attending college but that you do stuff to help out because of it you night also add that they need you to live there as well to help them out.. You need to be stern but respectful when you say it because after all they are you parents.

I would also start saving money to move out. Because if that doesn't work you wont be getting along and you can show them that your not a kid and you are taking on adult responsibilities and that would probably work for sure although they are your parents and even when they realize your not a little girl anymore they will still think about that way when it comes to certain things.

Answer 6

I interpret your question as "What would you do if you were in my situation?"
If that's the question then it's a tough one. As you get older, young people seem younger. At 20 you should be mature enough to make adult decisions, but to your guardians (if that 's what they are) you're young and vulnerable.
Your welfare is a big responsibility. I suppose the mature thing to do would be to talk it over with them. If they don't agree to giving you the extra freedoms you want, then you must decide if the benefits of the arrangement outweigh the perceived disadvantages. If you conclude that your liberty outweighs the benefits then you should explain, in a mature way, that things must change or you must go. I suspect they're really not so narrow minded, just overprotective. As you get older your view of the world changes. They may be right.

Answer 7

I got here from a family contributors with 9 infants, and all our worry-loose desires have been fulfilled. some households can do it, my mothers and dads weren't the appropriate, yet I truthfully have regularly occurring different households with maximum of youngsters the place the youngsters have been completely chuffed and cared for splendidly. My spouse needs 2 infants of her own, and that i could incredibly decide to have 2 greater infants. good now in the homestead there's a 17 year, a 14 year, a 20 mo. and he or she's 19 weeks pregnant along with her/our first. She needs to have a 2d toddler approximately 18 months after the 1st. So for sure if i'm supportive of it, I see not something incorrect with it.

Answer 8

Are you brave enough to take the advice of the answers?

You are 20 years old! If you are 'trapped' in this environment then it is a trap that with an open door - that you stay in willingly!

At 20 you are a responsible adult, if you wanted to leave you could, student loans could help with your education - or get a part time job to pay for your education - yes it will mean i lot more work and longer hours - but then you could leave by your own rules and fend for yourself.

I suggest that you are happy in this relationship, you say if you are at school they phone you to check on you - phones switch off you know! If you don't like your situation do something about it other than complain.

Answer 9

Hi sorry to hear about your situation, if you haven't got any friends or other relatives to stay at, then the next best thing would be to study really hard and get a good education and then when you have a job and can support yourself move out as far as way as possible, then you can visit them but have an excuse not to visit them often

Answer 10

Honey I'm as poor as they come and I still managed to live independently and get an education. If you're feeling suffocated get a job and move out. Working and studying is hard work but its acheivable and it sounds like it may save your sanity.
Talk to them first, tell them your plans, they may be willing to ease up a little. They probably want whats best for your education and they may come to realise that they may be ******* that up.