i keep lying about myself to make myself sound better and now i feel really bad about it,and if i tell her she probably won't even like me anymore what should i do..?
2006-11-13 10:22:52 · 8 answers · asked by Stefan S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost, right now, you must learn to be honest. A liar is going nowhere in life.
The truth comes first in ALL situations.
Having got that, then the only thing that is right is to apologise. She will probably like the fact that you have sufficient humility to be able to apologise, and she will also like the fact that you have made a pact with yourself to never ever tell another lie.
She probably already knows you have lied, so these actions will not only progress your relationship, but will make you a far better person.
After all, that's why we are born - to evolve the soul and improve as a person. Now you have the chance - take it.
2006-11-13 10:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do now is be completely truthful with her. it's far better than continuing. how far would you end up taking it anyway? do you think you would marry her with all of those lies built up? believe it or not, i lived 9 years with a man like that. i had no idea what was going on. look at it this way, she will either forgive you and continue your relationship with you or just be friends with you. even if she wants to be friends, don't be upset. she's still on your side and you have learned a lesson in life. good luck
2006-11-13 10:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the most curageous thing you can do is tell her the truth. She might like you just because you told the truth but if she finds out and you don't tell her fireworks are soon to come. So tell her before it's to late and tell her about the REAL you. If she likes the REAL you then she's right for you (especially if she forgives you for lying.)
2006-11-13 10:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by amagaldi_star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just have to take that risk if you want to be serious with her. Even if it turns her off and you lose your chance with her, you learned an important life lesson.
Don't feel the need to lie to make yourself more interesting. Go out and do interesting things, take up some new hobbies and interests. Develop who you are as a person and you will have the confidence in yourself and won't feel the need to lie.
2006-11-13 10:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you do have yourself in a bit of a predicament, its ok... you'll survive,
just explain to her that you made up the lies so she would like you better and you really do like her a Lot. unfortunatly it might take her more time to trust you again& maybe you could just be friends after and let her have time to get over it.
2006-11-13 10:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you screwed up this relationship totally but you need to tell her the truth and stop lieing.
You many need counseling for this as it sounds like you have a very poor self image.
also your right she may not like you any more as Honesty is a very critical part of any real relationship
2006-11-13 10:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Magnusfl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bad are the lies? We need examples
2006-11-13 10:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by yayapoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.... tell us what did you tell her. you cannot have a relateionship based on lies. i say tell her.
2006-11-13 12:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by the anwserer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋