She hits me constantly in the face, kicks, screams, and tries to turn over when i have to change her diaper or clothes, she does not let me do anything that i have to do!! She will not let me trim her nails or brush her teeth, and she doesn't listen when i "tell her no firmly" or pop her on the hand,she just hits me back....HELP!!!
2006-11-13 10:11:54 · 7 answers · asked by maddysmommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Boy have I been there! I just learned to pick and choose my battles with my daughter. I've learned it's quite pointless to try and teach a child that it's wrong to hit by saying "No!" and swatting them. Sometimes it's what they need, though, to realize they're hurting you. Instead of trying to brush her teeth for her, brush YOUR teeth and let HER try brushing hers while watching you. Whenever you're giving her a verbal punishment [[[like saying "no"]]], get down to her level and look her in the eyes so she doesn't feel like you're this big, mean person ordering her around. Even though she may be too young to understand now, explain to her the reason she can't do something. Also, try not to yell [[[trust me, I know how hard it is!]]]. It'll just freak her out. Good luck!
PS
Make sure to reward her for all good behavior!!! They don't have to be big rewards, praise always works.
2006-11-13 12:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's at that age. It's a really really tough age, and the only thing that got me through with my kids was a mountain of patience, some tears, and time (i.e. waiting it out).
There are all kinds of parenting styles, and what works for you with this child might not work for someone else, so no matter what answers people post here, remember it has to ring true to you and actually work. And what works today might not (probably won't) work tomorrow.
I think at such a young age smacking her hand just teaches her to smack back.
Choose your "battles" wisely. If you insist on every little thing that you think you "should" do, then you're setting yourself up for more turmoil. For instance, you don't really have to insist on brushing her teeth for a little while (short-term, not for years). When feasible, you can choose to let her run around w/o a diaper for a few minutes until she burns off some engergy. Stuff like that.
Good luck!
2006-11-13 10:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by MorningG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay, there is no point in attempting to reason with a 16 month old. You need to get her attention - whether that is a spanking or like the first guy suggested - ignore her and lock her up for a few minutes. They will still love you later. You don't need to be afraid of your daughter. She is only a year old - you may need to get away from her for a while. or, if she is a day care child, she is doing this because she is sad and doesn't know how to relay her feelings to you so she acts out.
2006-11-13 12:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by twotaters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what reward she is getting with her behavior. She's doing that because the rewards are greater than the consequences. If you reverse that formula--make the consequences greater than the rewards and the behavior will go away.
2006-11-13 10:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but when I watch that nanny show and see kids dictating to their parents I have to wonder about the mental capacity of the parents.
If you can't outsmart a 16 month old baby, I hate to see what is going to happen when she is a teenager.
2006-11-13 10:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her. Let her scream. Lock her in a room for an hour at a time, and let her stew.
2006-11-13 10:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to watch Nanni 911
2006-11-13 10:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by girlio33 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋