What is the freaking hurry? Lots of questions on here recently having to do with "how can I tell her or him that I love them". It's usually followed with more information that lets us know that you haven't hardly ever even spoken to the object of you infatuation but yet you will to tell someone you have feelings for them, or love them. Why not ask them on a date and take it from there? Why are some on this site willing to make the "I love you" statement, but don't want to simply ask them out on a date and see what happens. Just some advice from an old dude. YOU WILL 99% OF THE TIME HUMILIATE YOURSELF yourself if you haven't even been on a date with them.
2006-11-13 10:11:46 · 34 answers · asked by bigbadwolf 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it seems at this day and age kids throw that word around very loosely and they don't even know what love is. most confuse lust with love.... but they really have no clue.
in their defense it took me a while to experience and learn what love is... im 31 now and still have alot to learn. it's a natural learning process..... i wish we could have known what older folks knew back when we were really young... :P
2006-11-13 10:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by eViL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know. the words i love u are special and shouldn't be thrown around to just anyone. I feel they should be said only once you really know someone. Of course maybe that is just me being old fashioned(though i am young). I don't think it would be humiliating though, just silly, to say that someone u don't really know.
As for rushing,well we are in a rush nowadays. In all aspects of life, yet love is something u cannot rush it comes to you and it can leave u. it has no rhyme or reason and therefore no matter how much are society tries, it cannot be controlled, understood, or kept on a scheduale like a clock. So don't worry too much about those questions, young people nowadays have to learn on there own. I for one never rushed and have found my special someone, perhaps there is a lesson in all this. Thank you for a thought provoking question
2006-11-13 10:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by TR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be 21 any more, but you make a lot of sense. I am probably older than you BUT I sense that most of these types of questions come from a younger audience.
People today are in a hurry to make a commitment to establish a relationship. Saying "I love you" doesn't guarantee anything! It may just do the opposite and scare away the people you wish to attract.
Let's hear it for wisdom!!
2006-11-13 10:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life moves fast especially for teenagers in the world of high school. Everything seems like a life or death situation. Teens like to make things dramatic. Oh so very EMO, don't you think.
As you get older you earn more life experience and confidence to ask people out. You realize it's not such a big deal. But they need to learn this, we're not just born with this confidence towards the opposite sex. Cut them some slack.
With that said, I completely agree with your statement.
2006-11-13 10:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I see where your coming from. Some people just want some advice on HOW to talk to the girl. Just let these people ask their questions and try to use your advice so they won't screw up like you say you have. And how old are you....? If you keep saying you are SO OLD then people will think you are like 13 and I'm sure you're not. Anyway these people just want some guidelines so they have a 97% chance of being humiliated. Hope I wasn't harsh...
2006-11-13 10:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by movie guru, tv master 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't like it either.
So many people in this world are obsessed with the notion of love, marriage, and children. My sister-in-law bypassed the love portion of a relationship to beat my husband and I to the alter.
More and more I see people, on and off this site, put on the blinders and focus solely on love. With all of the "how do I win back the love of my boyfriend?" or "should I stay with a cheater" I can see the immaturity of so many men and women.
Someday people will realize that relationships require more than love.
2006-11-13 10:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 19 and I totally see your point. I can't believe that I felt that way about 5 years ago. But sometimes I wish I could go back when life was that care free. I think I get more upset when I see so many questions about people who are cheating, want to cheat or think their significant other is cheating. Do people have no morals anymore?!
2006-11-13 10:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know- they may have a crush or infatuation and think it is love- or believe the crap on TV and that version of love- or lust- so I bet anybody over 19 is really old- LOL!!! Also - things are not thought out in the average young brain- like when you are over 25= so remember adolescents and all the changes- D
2006-11-13 10:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just how old are you as i am one of the older women and also find this very odd with the younger "kids" on here. I'm tired of always the same thing!!! I would like to have more mature questions from adults!!
2006-11-13 10:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of teen girls on this site. Remember back to those stupid notes being past around in class. The ones that said "Do you like Jill? _ Yes _ No. Do you love Jill? _ Yes _ No." The technology changes, but the mentality doesn't.
2006-11-13 10:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by edward_the_l0ngshanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋