are you brave enough to answer this?

Question

what if this was your life...been 20 years old..living with two narrow minded people in their 50's...who dont allowed you to go anywhere..no friends they say this world is too bad u might get spoiled in it...not allowed to spend money..not allowed to buyclothes...not allowed to have bf/gf....if you go to school one of them cal u and ask u where are you how come not yet home?instead of calling on your cell phone..what would u do?can u answer this question ..been helpless with all responsibity you have that you cant move out

Answer 1

holly sh*t your 20 not 2 years old. tell them to get lost! I feel very sorry for u. if that was my life I would have to killed myself.

Answer 2

That was me 35 years ago. I married a man I didn't love just to get out of that house. I didn't have the courage or the know how to get away any other way. If you want to go on living there, you may have to negotiate some changes. Do you have your own income? If not can you ask for an allowance that is yours to spend as you wish? Have you got friends? Could one of your friends put on some social occasion that all the family could go to, and your parents could meet your friends in that way? It sounds like they are afraid of losing you. What they don't seem to realise is that the surest way to lose someone is to cage them. Ask them not to call you at school. Make a bond of trust between you; agree that one day a week, you will stay out after school/college. They will have to trust you, and you return that trust by telling them what time you will be back; sticking to that time, and switch the cellphone to silent, or switch it off. It will be hard the first few times, but you know you have to do this. good luck.

Answer 3

You're only helpless if you allow yourself to be.
Move out, find someone to share an apartment with and work part time. It may take you longer to finish your degree, but it will be worth it.
Also, there are grants and loans that help with living expenses, as well as school fees also.
Check them out.
This is your life and you are 20 years old, so start making your own choices and move out.
Good luck!

Answer 4

My heart goes out to you I am a mother of a 28yr old and 26yr old I think I was quite strict only one thing I never forgot is that I was that age once as a parent you do try to put your kids on the right road but there is a time that you let go and let them choose which path they wish to take if things go wrong I believe you should be there to pick up the pieces and when they are happy be happy for them this is YOUR life and you must make your own path maybe this sounds a bit wacky only I love mine dearly and as hard as it may be you have to let go. Good luck

Answer 5

Your parents are being to protective, I assume you have spoken to them about his. Are they wanting to keep you at Home to look after them when there pensioners?
My best advice would be to move out, look at these websites looking for lodgers. You will gain independance and make new friends. If your parents see you getting on in the world with out them it may put them more at ease. If you dont like it away from home after a couple of months, Im sure that they would have you back in a shot.
Take Care, Chin up and be brave m8ty

Answer 6

I believe that they are very consurened about you but are being a bit rough, if you live in the uk you are very lucky and you can still go out and have some fun, tell them they must appreciate that you live here as it safer than most places in the world and you are legallally old enough to look after your self and they need to give you more space, tell them you will be aware of your surrounding and be careful and if that doesn;t work i would tell them that you had enough and move out as you are old enough

Answer 7

Well first things first who are these ppl if they're your parents get a job and raise enough money for a car... Turn your cell phone off they cant kill you or anything and as for the world spoiling you thats crap! That what your doing now will destory your mind if you dont get out! Meet people your own age tell them its your life... Dont be trapped like that.... Goodluck

Answer 8

OMG!!!

You said it.... 'what if this was your life...'

IT IS YOUR LIFE!

If you are 20 years old or more, then you simply must get out for your own sanity.

I'm sure the 'narrow minded people in their 50's' have your best interests at heart, but they are not very worldly wise are they?

Don't know much else to say, except I wish you the very best of luck.

Stay safe, be brave.

Answer 9

You're old enough to say "no" to all those things, of course if you wish to change your life. No one could tell you what to do at your age. You might think about what kind of life you would like to lead and to stick to your own life path. Parents could be really boring sometimes but that's what they usually do. Your life is your choice. If you find it hard to say "no", you're not alone in this world. As soon as your parents realize that you have an attitude toward your life and your own wishes, their power over your will decrease.

Answer 10

Have you got a kind aunty or grandmother who you can talk to or even move in with. You must learn to answer back tell them that you think they are far too possesive with you and how unhappy you are. Your answer is to get a job and get the hell out of there, that is how parents were fourty years ago.

Answer 11

At 20, you CAN move out. Go get a flat share with some people your age and have some fun.