I met a nice new guy today at uni, he sat beside me in a lecture because there weren’t many other seats left. During the class I got the feeling that he was looking at me, trying to be subtle about it. Maybe I was imagining it because I fancied him but I think there was some attraction. We talked a bit afterwards about him being transferred to my university, then I had to rush off. I’m sure I’ll see him around again but the thing is, I’m shy and not very good at making friends, I just don't feel as if i have anything interesting to say. Also I’m clueless and not very experienced when it comes to dating. Any tips on how I can get to know this guy, find out if he likes me etc?
Any advice would be appreciated, I’ve been single for a long time and I’m tired of getting nowhere with the people I like!
2006-11-13 10:09:16 · 27 answers · asked by see_anotherside 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the best thing to do is to act yourself. Find stuff out about him and just genuinally ask questions about him. What Ive done a few times is said something like where do you normally go to hang out when they answer I say oh ive allways wanted to go there but none of my friends like it so I never get to go and when i done this twice they turned round and said they would take me. Its worth a shot and worst case scenario he wont ask you out in which case just say to yourself BOVERD!!!!!!!!!! XXX
2006-11-13 10:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pet 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well since you are shy, that ganna be a problem, but there is a soloution. (Not really) Anyways try to make friends with him, and talk to him, since he is new he prabably wont think you like him. Talk about stuff, eat lunch toghther etc. Dont let you friends do anything that could make the guy think you like him, until the moment is right, otherwise he will think of (cough micheal jackson) He will prabably have friends so dont do much to take him away from them, he will show more (how shall i say it, well) emotions, and you will get a bigger idea if he likes you. If you are almost possitive he likes you, ask it olmost as a joke if he likes you, and from there you will know whats going on, but dont follow exactly what i saw, because if not everything goes the way you want it, you have to adapt to your sitiuation.
2006-11-13 10:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by bryantsahota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i know where you are coming from, i too have been alone for quite some time. I'd say just to be yourself. i know it can take some nerve to approach some one you like. You seem to be at a good start, if you share a class ask him for some help weather you need it or not. Or you could bump into him on purpose in the hall. Play it off as a mistake or like you didn't see him then you can get a conversation going. best wishes
2006-11-13 10:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask if he wants to grab a coffee after the lecture as you wanted to go through a couple of things, or perhaps try and sit near him again so that you get involved in group seminar tasks.
At uni, there is no hurry, but setting the ground work might ensure that you dont slip up.
Also, he might make a move as well.... bonus.
2006-11-13 10:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by ng51online 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you have a great big smile on your face when he sees you there's nothing nicer, he should definitely get the picture. If he comes over don't trip yourself up by trying to find topics to talk about ask simple question eg. how are you, what you up to, whats your next class and you'll find it will all just come out nicely
Good Luck XOXO
2006-11-13 10:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jimbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to have a conversation. Try to talk about each other, the things you like the things you don't. Just try to find anything to talk about. News, holidays, sports. You do have many interesting things to say, everybody does. Try to ask him what you want to know in a conversations don't just start popping out questions. If you have a conversation with this guy you'll know if he could like you. First you have to know about him and he definitely needs to know about you. Don't get stressed with relationships, sometimes it's just better to wait.
2006-11-13 10:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey If you wanna kno if a guy likes you he will show signs like this
he will smile when you talk even if what your talking about isnt something to smile about and Guys love to take long gazes into your eyes so if you find him stairing into your eyes well you kno then! You can number 1 go up to him and straight out tell him but by the sounds of it you arent that kind of girl because ur shy but thats nothing to be worried about im the exact same! well anyway if you dont wanna do that then show him signs like giggle at him and twurl ur hair and blush but guys really like it when you say something about him being strong say like can i have a strong mans help or something like that so he will soon get the picture and if he likes you back ta da! well i hope that helped!
p.s- keep me updated!!
2006-11-13 10:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation that you are in, I go to college as well, and I met this really cute guy, we both work at the same place, but it is hard to talk to him, and when I go out it is hard to talk to him as well, because he knows so many people, but my advice to you is get to know him ask him a few questions here and there, it is better than my situation, where I all can say at work to him is hi and how are you, and I never get a chance to talk to him at the bars,
good luck,
2006-11-13 10:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear he probably feels quite the same as you do, most people are not brimming over with confidence!
you sat together & you had a chat, thats a really GREAT start.. when you get a chance do it again and you can find out all about this man.
2006-11-13 10:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile and say hello every time you see him. If he likes you he will make an effort too. Comment on the weather, ask him if he has settled in ok to uni. Just be yourself, and remember most blokes prefer quiet shy girls than loud mouths. Good luck.
2006-11-13 10:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww!!! Don't be shy ... just like say hello to him like everytime you see him kind of thing for like starters and then if he's ever alone on the lunch table .. ask if anyones sitting there and join him ... when your arounf him u'll start feeeling comfortable and you might just have something to say even if it's like the most borrinf thing ever .. or if he has the same elcture as you ... you can pretend you didnt really understand a point that the professor said and ask for help and kind of make conversation out of that!! Anyways good luck!!
2006-11-13 10:39:09 · answer #11 · answered by pwincessash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋